Surviving Narcissism

Surviving narcissism is something we unfortunately have been faced with for one reason and one reason only. We have crossed paths with a psychopath who immediately detected our strong need to love, please and be needed. It was not our fault, we were actually in the wrong place at the wrong time in some cases. We need to deal with this head on and while doing so, remember who we were and find ourselves again during this journey of rediscovery and healing.

It is hard sometimes to stay positive. There are so many questions floating around in your head that you can barely make sense of them. This is why it is important to stay focused, educate yourself and regroup from time to time. My own experiences have been devastating to say the least and I went through all the emotions this past year and a half that I ever care to go through again believe me! But I know that is an unrealistic expectation of myself, of course through life, I will have my ups and downs, we will have our ups, and downs........all of us.

One step forward, two steps back.........it's very common in every day life, not just our lives as the victims of narcissism. I guess what I am trying to say, is feel your pain, it is real, know your pain, and know that this won't be a "forever" feeling. Every one of us will have our lives back and be better then ever. With hard work dedication and support, we will all get there!

I have found happiness and contentment but make no mistake, I am not completely out of the woods......but I am well on my way. We will all have set backs, every one of us........from the new member here for less then 24 hours to the "elders" (just teasing) that have been here for a year or more. The setbacks can't define us though. Because we experience one or some, we can't give up, throw in the towel or decide that because we had the setback that we must not be strong enough to continue on. We are strong enough. With each and every day that we deal with this, we become stronger. Don't be so hard on yourself.....haven't our narcs been hard enough on us?

I am proud of myself AND each and every one of you on this site. Mainly for wanting to overcome this, finding importance enough in ourselves, and to want better for ourselves. My hat is off to each of you......

Remember, when you stumble, there is ALWAYS someone here ready, willing, and able to pick you up and help you get back on track. Nice unity, I must say.......very nice.

Heartwarming thoughts of everyone today and always!