Struggling with NC? Don't believe he's a narc? PLEASE READ THIS!!!

The ex-Psych idolized his father (oddly, there is no physical resemblance, why not a Maury Povich appearance?), the only person he respected, called by his first name. The ex-P didn't have the usual Mommy enmeshment;he had cut the apron strings. He was, however, in "My Heart Belongs to Daddy" mode. He hangs out with his Daddy and his Daddy's colleagues. If I did the same thing, it would be awkward. My father is in oceanography;it isn't my thing. I am not scientifically adept. I'd find it odd to spend my time with him&his colleagues at the university. But that's what the ex-P does. Tag along with Daddy. He's the same age, mentally, as my 2 year old nephew who is excited when my brother in-law comes home. Interestingly, my parents said that if my sister had twins, they would've moved to Massachusetts (yes, my sis, brother in-law and nephew live there, not a typo) to HELP OUT. But they wouldn't move in to raise the kids for them. My parents help out. They're not going to New England to act as parents. There was one poster here who once said that as a mother, she wouldn't have her in-laws raise her kids. She would be equally hands-on, because they're her kids. The ex-P was into Russian literature, especially Leo Tolstoy. In Russia, it's traditional for grandparents to raise their grandchildren to the age of 10-or even longer. Leo Tolstoy was raised by his grandparents-but that's because his mother died when he was 2, and his father when he was 9. He was orphaned. Of course his grandparents raised him. The ex-P identified with Prince Andrei Bolkonsky in "War and Peace." Andrei is a cerebral Narc. He fears physical affection (even from other men-he flees Pierre's outstretched hand) He emotionally abuses his pregnant wife Princess Lisa, then abandons her to go to war. While his wife is still expectant, Andrei tells his father Nicholas to raise his son, if his wife gives birth to a son. Andrei doesn't want his wife to have a hand in raising his son. Conveniently, Lisa dies in childbirth as a result of Andrei's mistreatment. There's a telling scene when Andrei's son Nicholas is seriously ill. Andrei's sister, Mary, ends up taking care of the sickly baby boy. Andrei is MORE upset that the diplomat Bilibin ridicules him in a snarky letter. The ex-P regarded babies with pity&disgust. And here's a passage from his favorite novel- "How sweet!" said Countess Mary, looking at and playing with the baby. "Now, Nicholas (Rostov)",she added turning to her husband. "I can't understand how it is you can't see the charm of these delicious marvels." "I don't and I can't",replied Nicholas, looking coldly at the baby."A lump of flesh. Come along Pierre!" "And yet he's such an affectionate father",said Countess Mary, vindicating her husband."But only after they are a year old or so!"

the longest my brother stayed away was 6 months!, Just stay alert! What I learned from my brother is that NC ment I WILL NOT BE IGNORED AND I WILL MAKE YOU REGRET IT! I finally had to tell him if he didn't respect my wishes and stay gone I would have him locked up everytime he showed up!