Struggling and angry

I'm struggling with my emotions today and feel I've taken a backward step. I was 4weeks NC my ex had been emailing and texting which I was ignoring and beginning to feel much better. He emailed at weekend to ask for photos of his family which were on my computer, as there were so many I asked him to send a memory stick, giving him the chance to respond, he said he'd hoped I'd call for it as he had planned things for us, wouldn't tell me the plans. He then proceeded to inform me of two new girls he'd employed, he pointed out that they weren't his type. He then suggested I called next weekend and he'd arrange something, he wouldn't tell me what, because I said I wouldn't be coming, he accused me of storing other men's phone numbers and said he knew that I wanted to F*** them, or they did me and that was as bad. He then started on again about how frigid I was because I refuse anal. Why does everything have to come back to sex?
Rightly or wrongly I am now wondering about the two girls, I feel dumped!
It's our wedding anniversary this week and I keep thinking of how things were just 3years ago.
I've never been interested in anyone else, he left last April, he said there was no one else, he started hoovering again in Sept, is it likely he had someone? The thought of ever being with a man again terrifies me, whilst I do get lonely at times I'm in no rush for a broken heart. I adored my ex literally work shipped the ground he walked on, how can he accuse me of this, I'd never have been unfaithful?
He's set me the memory stick and I know where I feel like shoving it!
I'm away from family and friends which is hard, I may have chance of a job back home and again I don't know what's best as I have a job and home here and have made some friends
I'm sorry if I've babbled but I hope someone will answer