Strange Pathological Behaviors

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Strange Pathological Behaviors

The following behaviors are probably more common amongst pathologicals (narcissists & psychopaths) than non-pathologicals

NOT ALL will apply to any individual pathological. Only a couple are needed!

1. Has no conscience.

2. Manipulates people by "pulling strings" or "pushing the right buttons" .

3. Is perceived to be "sticky", "slimy" or "slippery". Even "charming."

4. Is a "control freak".

5. Is a "serial bully". Has one main bully target at a time. Once he loses control of that bully target, he feels compelled to find another bully target very quickly to sink his claws into.

6. Has an exaggerated sense of self-importance, thinking that the world revolves around him. Also that when thwarted - it's a conspiracy against him.

7. Is a "fantasist". (Lives in fantasy world but blends in to the real world)

8. Glares at people with piercing but dead eyes. (Can be mistaken for attraction)

9. Would unexpectedly say very hurtful things. Confuses sarcasm with humor.

10. Consistently apportions blame to others when things go wrong, regardless of how logically an explanation was given - "whipping boy" - "fall guy".

11. Twists and distorts facts to his advantage.

12. Jekyll and Hyde personality. (Incidentally, Robert Louis Stevenson's fictional character was inspired by a real life psychopath that he had met but obviously the fictional character was an exaggerated version.)

13. Applies his distorted sense of reality (psychosis) to others, accusing them of faults and weaknesses that are actually his own. This is known as "projection".

14. Inability to accept responsibility or blame for his actions. He is always "in denial".

15. Can get vicious if cornered. (Narcissistic Rage)

16. Spin a "web of deceit".

17. Has a "hidden agenda".

18. Has a "selective memory" - remembers your mistakes but forgets his own.

19. Seldom plans for the long and medium terms, believing himself to be immune to the consequences of his own actions.

20. Takes the credit for other people's work. Can also claim other's lives & credits as their OWN!

21. Demands absolute loyalty. Only likes you if you do exactly what he wants, therefore attempting to reinforce manipulation.

22. Tries to make you feel guilty ("the guilt trip") if you protest about doing what he wants you to do. For example, saying to you "You are causing me so many problems because of your selfishness."

23. Often exhibits an unusually high level of charm. Commonly uses flattery (love bombing) to win people over so they can be manipulated.

24. May have an impenetrable veneer of charm, or "superficial politeness", that makes it very difficult to ask pertinent or searching questions that would reveal his true self. For example, he may constantly crack jokes or dwell on pleasantries with no substance. A psychopathic veneer of charm may manifest itself in organizations by using glossy brochures and marketing that portrays things in an idealistic way that has little bearing on reality - "charm offensive".

25. Happy to dish out criticism or abuse - not happy to receive criticism or abuse - "do as I say, not as I do".

26. Makes an audible noise when walking around, such as humming, whistling, singing, making duck-noises or clicking fingers.

27. Uses frequent hand movements when talking.

28. Gives you a sense of being "talked at" rather than being "talked to" when engages you in conversation.

29. Inability to understand irony.

30. He can't be trusted. Breaks promises and breaches matters intended to be in confidence.

31. Stabs you in the back. Lies about you to others and vice versa.

32. Fakes sincerity with great conviction. For example he may be profusely apologetic, if he is caught red-handed doing some misdemeanor, but then do the same misdemeanor the next week if he thinks he can get away with it. He is incapable of a sincere apology.

33. Lacks tact.

34. Is not a team player - he acts autocratically.

35. Is two-faced.

36. Hates people who are more talented than he is as it shows up his own inadequacies which he may in turn "project" faults onto that person. (i.e. they are ugly; fat; stupid; liars; etc)

37. Flies into a rage over a small problem - "nit picking".

38. Lacks any kind of personal depth.

39. Has a beaming, charismatic and even messianic smile.

40. Gets others to do his dirty work - "attack dogs" or "hatchet men"

41. Changes the rules frequently but denies the inconsistency.

42. May plunge into detail about something without appreciating that you don't know the context.

43. May express anger because you don't know something that he assumes you know but there is no reason why you should know it and no-one has told you.

44. Interprets criticism of himself (even constructive criticism) as a personal insult or personal attack.

45. Expresses anger at emotional outbursts from others.

46. May use the word "I" frequently in conversation and with emphasis.

47. May use expressions such as "I'm just looking after number one" or "I was just following orders" as an excuse to justify abuse.

48. Rarely gets GENUINELY depressed.

49. Is more concerned about the welfare of an inanimate object than a human being. For example, if he witnesses a person colliding with an inanimate object and hurting themselves, he may be more concerned about possible damage to the inanimate object.

50. Likes to find out about or observe other pathologicals. For example, likes to watch Hollywood action films with psychopathic characters or read books about pathological historical characters such as Napoleon.

51. Never remembers his own emotional outbursts or denies having them.

52. Sees things in black or white - something is either all "good" or all "evil".

53. Lectures you endlessly until you agree. For example, think of the tendency of dictators to give speeches that go on for hours - this is "extreme lecturing".

54. Unusual or abnormal sense of direction.

55. Has little interest in making any effort to make you feel comfortable, unless he is manipulating you.

56. They can express remorse when they lose control of someone they are abusing. This is just a form of self-pity as they now have to go to the trouble of finding, "luring" and "grooming" a new target.

57. Makes forced loud laughter - belly laugh

58. Excessive use of makeup. Preening. Excessive touching of hair. Proud of appearance - beard, hair, etc.

59. Often attributes others to saying things about them, for example, "My mother says that I have the most lovely hair." or refers to himself in the third person.

60. Inability to say thank you. Inability to return a compliment. Inability to reciprocate or acknowledge an act of kindness.

61. May make or be seen to make token acts of kindness, for example donations to charity. However these acts are not sincere and are intended just to reinforce their pretense of being a good person or as some form of manipulation.

62. Has an abnormal "startle response" - doesn't jump or startle when we would. This is documented by professionals, but not well known among the public. Rarely do they blush or feel embarrassed.

63. Abnormal sense of smell. Psychopaths may not smell things we can or not as well as we can (olfactory sense). This seems to be verified by research of psychosis variations.

64. Normal people may sense or feel the presence of "evil". It permeates from them. We react with nausea, fear, and we deny & excuse it and often say "Oh, he doesn't mean that". It is often intangible and something we can't really define.

65. Loves giving explicit details of gory operations or violent incidents that he has heard about, for example in films or on TV.

66. Thinks that normal rules of society don't apply to him - he is somehow exempt. He is not concerned with right or wrong for his own actions - only with whether he can get away with doing something without being caught. However he may insist that others adhere to strict rules of his making.

67. Dislikes plants, gardens, etc.

68. May show an odd or abnormally high fascination with fire, weapons, drugs, sex or alcohol.

69. Throws out items normally kept. Has no items or discards any with only 'sentimental connections'.

70. May have a commanding physical presence.

71. Drives recklessly

72. Homophobic (angry/protests about gays).

73. Obsession with neatness and even personal cleanliness.

74. May be cruel to animals (for example, stamps on worms)

75. Thinks that it is necessary for someone else to fail for him to succeed. He will often make sure that someone fails by using deceit. A psycho manager may engineer failure in an employee by overloading with work or setting impossible deadlines.

76. Fascination with body function of bowel movements. Likes jokes about them.

77. Has a thing about cleanliness. They have to be cleaner than clean.

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Mar 8 - 6PM
Barbara (not verified)
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meet Psycho-Boy

I think I only deleted 3 or 4 - looks like he's a poster boy for psychopathy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ 1. Has no conscience. 2. Manipulates people by "pulling strings" or "pushing the right buttons" . 3. Is perceived to be "sticky", "slimy" or "slippery". Even "charming." 4. Is a "control freak". 5. Is a "serial bully". Has one main bully target at a time. Once he loses control of that bully target, he feels compelled to find another bully target very quickly to sink his claws into. 6. Has an exaggerated sense of self-importance, thinking that the world revolves around him. Also that when thwarted - it's a conspiracy against him. 7. Is a "fantasist". (Lives in fantasy world but blends in to the real world) 8. Glares at people with piercing but dead eyes. (Can be mistaken for attraction) 9. Would unexpectedly say very hurtful things. Confuses sarcasm with humor. 10. Consistently apportions blame to others when things go wrong, regardless of how logically an explanation was given - "whipping boy" - "fall guy". 11. Twists and distorts facts to his advantage. 12. Jekyll and Hyde personality. (Incidentally, Robert Louis Stevenson's fictional character was inspired by a real life psychopath that he had met but obviously the fictional character was an exaggerated version.) 13. Applies his distorted sense of reality (psychosis) to others, accusing them of faults and weaknesses that are actually his own. This is known as "projection". 14. Inability to accept responsibility or blame for his actions. He is always "in denial". 15. Can get vicious if cornered. (Narcissistic Rage) 16. Spin a "web of deceit". 17. Has a "hidden agenda". 18. Has a "selective memory" - remembers your mistakes but forgets his own. 19. Seldom plans for the long and medium terms, believing himself to be immune to the consequences of his own actions. 20. Takes the credit for other people's work. Can also claim others' lives & accomplishments as their OWN! 21. Demands absolute loyalty. Only likes you if you do exactly what he wants, therefore attempting to reinforce manipulation. 22. Tries to make you feel guilty ("the guilt trip") if you protest about doing what he wants you to do. For example, saying to you "You are causing me so many problems because of your selfishness." 23. Often exhibits an unusually high level of charm. Commonly uses flattery (love bombing) to win people over so they can be manipulated. 24. May have an impenetrable veneer of charm, or "superficial politeness", that makes it very difficult to ask pertinent or searching questions that would reveal his true self. For example, he may constantly crack jokes or dwell on pleasantries with no substance. A psychopathic veneer of charm may manifest itself in organizations by using glossy brochures and marketing that portrays things in an idealistic way that has little bearing on reality - "charm offensive". 25. Happy to dish out criticism or abuse - not happy to receive criticism or abuse - "do as I say, not as I do". 27. Uses frequent hand movements when talking. 28. Gives you a sense of being "talked at" rather than being "talked to" when engages you in conversation. 29. Inability to understand irony. 30. He can't be trusted. Breaks promises and breaches matters intended to be in confidence. 31. Stabs you in the back. Lies about you to others and vice versa. 32. Fakes sincerity with great conviction. For example he may be profusely apologetic, if he is caught red-handed doing some misdemeanor, but then do the same misdemeanor the next week if he thinks he can get away with it. He is incapable of a sincere apology. 33. Lacks tact. 34. Is not a team player - he acts autocratically. 35. Is two-faced. 36. Hates people who are more talented than he is as it shows up his own inadequacies which he may in turn "project" faults onto that person. (i.e. they are ugly; fat; stupid; liars; etc) 37. Flies into a rage over a small problem - "nit picking". 38. Lacks any kind of personal depth. 39. Has a beaming, charismatic and even messianic smile. (More like a giant gorilla - like grin) 40. Gets others to do his dirty work - "attack dogs" or "hatchet men" 41. Changes the rules frequently but denies the inconsistency. 42. May plunge into detail about something without appreciating that you don't know the context. 43. May express anger because you don't know something that he assumes you know but there is no reason why you should know it and no-one has told you. 44. Interprets criticism of himself (even constructive criticism) as a personal insult or personal attack. 45. Expresses anger at emotional outbursts from others. 46. May use the word "I" frequently in conversation and with emphasis. 47. May use expressions such as "I'm just looking after number one" or "I was just following orders" as an excuse to justify abuse. 49. Is more concerned about the welfare of an inanimate object than a human being. For example, if he witnesses a person colliding with an inanimate object and hurting themselves, he may be more concerned about possible damage to the inanimate object. 50. Likes to find out about or observe other pathologicals. For example, likes to watch Hollywood action films with psychopathic characters or read books about pathological historical characters such as Napoleon. 51. Never remembers his own emotional outbursts or denies having them. 52. Sees things in black or white - something is either all "good" or all "evil". 53. Lectures you endlessly until you agree. For example, think of the tendency of dictators to give speeches that go on for hours - this is "extreme lecturing". 54. Unusual or abnormal sense of direction. 55. Has little interest in making any effort to make you feel comfortable, unless he is manipulating you. 56. They can express remorse when they lose control of someone they are abusing. This is just a form of self-pity as they now have to go to the trouble of finding, "luring" and "grooming" a new target. 57. Makes forced loud laughter - belly laugh 58. Excessive use of makeup. Preening. Excessive touching of hair. Proud of appearance - beard, hair, etc. 59. Often attributes others to saying things about them, for example, "My mother says that I have the most lovely hair." or refers to himself in the third person. 60. Inability to say thank you. Inability to return a compliment. Inability to reciprocate or acknowledge an act of kindness. 61. May make or be seen to make token acts of kindness, for example donations to charity. However these acts are not sincere and are intended just to reinforce their pretense of being a good person or as some form of manipulation. 62. Has an abnormal "startle response" - doesn't jump or startle when we would. This is documented by professionals, but not well known among the public. Rarely do they blush or feel embarrassed. 63. Abnormal sense of smell. Psychopaths may not smell things we can or not as well as we can (olfactory sense). This seems to be verified by research of psychosis variations. 64. Normal people may sense or feel the presence of "evil". It permeates from them. We react with nausea, fear, and we deny & excuse it and often say "Oh, he doesn't mean that". It is often intangible and something we can't really define. 66. Thinks that normal rules of society don't apply to him - he is somehow exempt. He is not concerned with right or wrong for his own actions - only with whether he can get away with doing something without being caught. However he may insist that others adhere to strict rules of his making. 67. Dislikes plants, gardens, etc. 68. May show an odd or abnormally high fascination with fire, weapons, drugs, sex or alcohol. 69. Throws out items normally kept. Has no items or discards any with only 'sentimental connections'. 70. May have a commanding physical presence. 71. Drives recklessly 72. Homophobic (angry/protests about gays). 73. Obsession with neatness and even personal cleanliness. 74. May be cruel to animals (for example, stamps on worms) 75. Thinks that it is necessary for someone else to fail for him to succeed. He will often make sure that someone fails by using deceit. A psycho manager may engineer failure in an employee by overloading with work or setting impossible deadlines. 76. Fascination with body function of bowel movements. Likes jokes about them. 77. Has a thing about cleanliness. They have to be cleaner than clean. ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims
Mar 8 - 4PM
quietude (not verified)
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Only 51...

...hey not bad! heh *Lectures you endlessly until you agree. For example, think of the tendency of dictators to give speeches that go on for hours - this is "extreme lecturing". OMG YES, he did this often! I would zone out and nod my head...ha! The sooner I listened to all of, the sooner it was over. *Happy to dish out criticism or abuse - not happy to receive criticism or abuse - "do as I say, not as I do". Another BIG one. If I dared even hinted at something being wrong with anything about him, it was, 'well, if you're not happy, why am I here?'...so threats of abandonment...and this also often lead to the silent treatment. Too many to name, but these are a couple that were extremely upsetting for me...
Mar 8 - 4PM
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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AGGGHHHHHH!!!!

he only missed FOUR..39..smirk, no smile...70..short and weasely...72..been seen cruising to many gay bars to pass himself off as homophobic..and 77...total slob..bud did demand clean freakery in others..... he even got 58..used makeup to cover blemishes and dyed his hair....26 seals the deal..was constantly making some kind of creepy noise.either mumbling or humming..or clicking his tongue like a lizard..........ewwwwwwwwwwww..... only a couple required...and he's the poster boy..... how does that cockroach keep crawling??????? My blog
Mar 8 - 9PM (Reply to #9)
rache
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my ex Psychopath

NEEDS makeup.........he said his wife #3 needs makeup so the dog would play with her! HECK,he looks like a poster child for MEN SHOULD GET IN TOUCH WITH THEIR FEMININE SIDE=LIGHTS,MAKEUP...
Mar 8 - 3PM
rache
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Ewwwwwwwwwww

just proves beyond a shadow of a shadow my ex psycho is a psychopath.....
Mar 8 - 3PM
itreallyisabouthim
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Mine had so many of those

Mine had SOOOOOO many of those that it makes me shudder. I see new ones every time I read this list. Like this time I remember that he is unflappable. He does not startle. I never thought this was part of the psychopath thing - interesting! But... He was not neater than neat. He was a pack rat. He did not discard things people normally would keep - he would not throw anything out. In fact he would not let me throw anything out, either. He would go through the trash and take out anything that I threw out that might have any remote possibility of use, such as a tin can or a popsicle stick. This certainly fits the "control freak" category, but what of this contradiction regarding cleanliness? He was personally clean, though, but he refused to use deodorant so one would not know (barf) unless one watched his personal grooming habits.
Mar 8 - 8AM
Barbara (not verified)
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Strange Pathological Behaviors

They only need a couple for you to RUN SCREAMIN'!! READ TOP POST ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims
Mar 8 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
malloryforest
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CF

CF has almost all of these traits. You know, maybe I should reconcile. What a catch!
Dec 2 - 2PM
alfrebob
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So true

I wish there was a way of sending this to his new girlfriend so she could understand what I have been through and why he is the way he is.She thinks I am the bad one and that I just don't accept that 'he is not perfect, none of us are'
Dec 2 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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alfrebob

don't bother... he'll use it to smear you further read thru the WHOLE message board and see the examples of what's happened when the new victim is contacted. NO CONTACT with him or her! None! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem
Dec 2 - 1PM
alfrebob
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Behaviours

Mine had all these behaviours...even the piercing eyes which I thought were attractive at the beginning. Later on, however, his eyes used to frighten my daughter by the way he looked at her. He had these piercing blue eyes but there was nothing there!! It scares me to see that he had all these behaviours.