The Stories in our Heads...

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#1 Jul 1 - 6PM
FreeMe
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The Stories in our Heads...

Once again,my fourm friends save the day... I didn't make that 11:00am call because of the support here. Grateful beyond words.

I know you all know the games our minds can play on us right? There are certain thoughts that trigger the feeling of fear, anxiety, sadness, anger, etc.

The thing I think that 'hooks' me is that he is on those dating sights or out in the world and MEETS 'THE ONE...' The one he said I was to him. The ONE who makes him feel like I used to make him feel. The ONE he WANTS TO SPEND TIME WITH...

He spent years telling me,

"You are 'home' to me",
"You are where I belong.
"We were meant to be toghether."
"You are my way forward."
"You are my 'it' girl."
"I've only felt this way three times in my whole life."
"You love me more than anyone in my entire life, more than my own mother... (Ding, ding, ding....)
"We're so much alike, it's so easy being with you."

The list is endless.... I'm imagining all of the OW hearing these same words. I feel stupid. I believed the fool was genuine. I believed his crazy lies and ever changing BS.

I just want to stop feeling like a zombie whose blood has been sucked out of her body. I want to hate him for what has happened to me. But, I'm responsible for this. I saw the signs. I was warned. From day one after not seeing him for 21 years, I knew something didn't seem quite right. But I did not listen to my gut. I charged ahead.

Never again, NEVER....
FM

Jul 3 - 7AM
Learningthehardway
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Same thing happened to me...

Jul 3 - 8AM (Reply to #15)
Luv2bme
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It was done to me..

Jul 3 - 7AM (Reply to #14)
Used
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Recently, I would call and

Jul 2 - 6AM
Iwasfooledbyyou
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I was asked by my ex N many

Jul 3 - 2AM (Reply to #12)
Luv2bme
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Another Common Game...

Jul 1 - 8PM
done as dinner
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I think they may actually

Jul 1 - 7PM
ItsFinallytime
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So, so glad you made it

Jul 1 - 6PM
Loie
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I made a post on "The One."

Jul 1 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
sabinemason
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Yes. Me, too

Jul 1 - 6PM
Brit
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Oh the sweet words, but where

Jul 1 - 7PM (Reply to #6)
Not-this-time
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FreeMe and Brit, thanks for

Jul 1 - 6PM
Hunter
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Again.. we are all the OW..I

Jul 1 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
sabinemason
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I keep thinking about this

Jul 1 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
Loie
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YUP.

Jul 1 - 10PM (Reply to #4)
fefe65
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yes we are were the OW now