Some N news in Asia

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#1 Sep 24 - 11PM
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Some N news in Asia

Quite a number of us here are missing our N. I am one as well.

Just want to share some N in the news in Asia. How the lack of empathy makes them fake and pointless to have in your life.

1. A 31yo woman took her 3yo son and drown. She committed suicide over her ex husband long torturing divorce tussle with her. The first thing the ex husband said when he saw the 2 cold dead bodies was "it is NOT my fault". I think all of you can recognise what creature he is without having to go into much details.

2. Another woman jumped off the building with 2 young daughters. The ex husband continues to play around with many woman. Their death does not affect him.

These woman took their lives and their children's. It doesnt even affect that man. This is how someone with no empathy is like. They simply cannot feel. If they can feel even a tiny fraction of the pain they wouldnt have reacted that way.

So ladies, we need to be strong. Even if we die it doesnt affect them. We need to love ourselves, live a fulfilling life with love. The N is just a bad episode in our wonderful life. Lets put it behind and look ahead and move on with great faith that we will be complete, wholesome and happy again.

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Sumiko

Sep 25 - 2AM
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The dead children in this 2

The dead children in this 2 news are the biological children of that husband. Their own flesh and blood. They are all below 4yo. For a parent to feel zero pain over their own child's death in such a tragic way is real horror. How hollow the Ns are! The woman who died might have alot of problems with the N but the kids?? This is something totally inhumane. Even an animal mourns for the death of its young before moving on. This is enough to jolt me when i fall into lala land n have nostalgic feelings abt the happier times with the N. Alot of us have this feeling cause we felt that our N is not evil n out to harm type. However, we all know deep down he cannot feel. His so call "feelings" are v v shallow. This is to the extend that even if we go and end our lives it wont make them feel anything. Our only healthy option is to live well.
Sep 25 - 1AM
freaked
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This is one of the most

This is one of the most alerting posts I have read. Thanks Sumiko. Barely 11 months back, I was all prepared to end my life because things had got really terrible here after the newest one he picked up. and then my child said to me...mommy, if we kill ourself, that fellow will really have a field day .. and quickly absolve from any blame..." "..and that letter we have left at the PO Box.. to be found after we died...who will care about it when Narc douses the police dept with hefty bribe?" Thus, it came about that we lived on. and then months after that, i found this site. every single day the newspaper is carrying report about women and children ending their life due to insurmountable difficulty and harassment by the husband...who (sad to admit this) has another woman. all this is discovered...the chap is in custody for about few weeks...then is let off scott free with bail. Today, I am thankful that i did not end my life. Right now, yes it is a terrible situation here...but I am shutting up and surviving. waiting for the day when i can be fully rid of the cancerous narc. Just saying a silent prayer to God today. I am sincerely Praying that every one of us victims finds peace and calm soon. we need a Heaven's Miracle to protect our psyche from any further damage. At Last, i am mentally dissociated from the NH. I know..i have to now practice to be INDIFFERENT to his constant digs and vague allusions to his secret life. i need to reach a point where i stop wasting my energy in cursing him. i want to live as if he doesnt exist...even though i have see his mug daily.
Sep 25 - 12AM
dulcinea441
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I'm starting to realize, to

I'm starting to realize, to my horror, that if we died BECAUSE of them -- like, if we jumped off a building to kill ourselves -- they'd get a huge ego boost from it. That's the only feeling they'd have.
Sep 25 - 8PM (Reply to #8)
Susan32
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It's a sick way to get a pedestal

It's startling and sickening to come to that realization. It literally made me sick during the final D&D that the ex-Psych prof would get off on me killing myself over him. My friends would ask me during the final D&D if I were suicidal, or had considered it. There were times when I wanted to go to sleep&never wake up.. but I wanted GOD to take me. I left my life in God's hands. For a time, I felt like I was merely going thru the motions of living. I ate, I slept... but not with any particular joy. in a way, I lost my will to live for a time, but not enough to kill myself or attempt it. It was my friends who pointed out that suicide would've been an ego boost for him. And a *SICK* one at that. The ex-P would compare me to Natasha in "War and Peace"... only recently did I read that she attempts suicide after a psychopath toys with her. She plans to marry him, but she finds out that he has a common-law wife. My situation paralleled her because I found out the ex-P already had a girlfriend. Natasha poisons herself... she does get saved... but I got off-script and didn't poison myself. In "War and Peace",the most prominent monument at the "Bugacharovo Cloister" (it's what Prince Nicholas Bolkonsky calls his son's house) is the tomb of Lisa, whom Andrei, the cerebral Narc, drives to death in childbirth due to abandonment&emotional abuse. Her tomb is the most prominent monument at Prince Andrei's place, with an angel atop it. Her death was the cost of idealization, a gruesome trophy. It's Andrei's sick way of saying "She loved me SO MUCH she died." No wonder I eventually WANTED to live.
Sep 25 - 1AM (Reply to #7)
deckard
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Mine didn't care when I

Mine didn't care when I cried. He'd say, cry all you want, I don't care. My tears never affected him. Not in the slightest. Not even the tears of his five year old daughter got to him. If I killed myself I think he'd feed off that for the rest of his life.
Sep 25 - 12AM (Reply to #4)
tresor2
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You got it...

that would be the ultimate narcissistic victory!!! Their goal is to destroy and the death of a partner would be as good as it gets for them. How sick is that!!
Sep 25 - 1AM (Reply to #5)
rosedewittbukater
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ultimate victory

I think you are right. My therapist told me if I died that my xN would spit on my grave.
Sep 25 - 1AM (Reply to #6)
tresor2
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Rose

Well, that's a little harsh...I think he would have had a drink or two and jacked off. It's a victory celebration.
Sep 24 - 11PM
tresor2
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So Sad

This is so hard to digest but, you are right, "even if we die, it doesn't affect them." When I told my exN I had breast cancer, he proceded to tell me that he had moved in a OW last weekend. He adds, "I thought I had told you that." I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to be complete, happy and wholesome after this nightmare but, I'm working towards it. The clock is ticking and I hate the fact the psycho wormed his way into my head.
Sep 24 - 11PM
lillymarch
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YES!

Our greatest gift to ourselves is to succeed! The most important thing we can do is to heal, move on, and to love again! We can do this! If dying doesn't affect them, maybe loving and living again will! And if we have moved on and are living this life to the fullest, will we even care if it affects them?? NO!