So grateful this website is here...it's been 2 years and I'm happy :)

It's so hard to believe it's been almost 2 years since i first came to this website and truly processed the narcissist that had at that point taken over my life. I'm so thankful this website was here to share, read other stories, and learn. Hearing other people's stories and noticing the similar experiences in their stories helped me process everything that happened with ex-narc. I wanted to share an update because this website made a difference and truly helped me move forward. My heart has healed and my confidence has been regained since I've been away from the narc. As strange as it may sound, I'm thankful for the lesson I learned from the narc. I learned what to be aware of when dating and the qualities to look out for, which helped keep me from falling into the trap of dating another narcissist. Because of this, I've met the most genuine and caring man I could ever ask for and he's asked me to be his wife. No roller coasters, no lies, no games, and no emotional abuse...it's so refreshing. Instead I have a best friend and a person who still loves me even when knowing my faults...and somehow manages to find them endearing instead of annoying (like the narc did).

Ex-narc did try to contact me after my engagement in which I ignored all of his messages. What was surprising is that after all this time, I didn't feel the hurt I once felt. It's frightening to think how different my life could have been had the ex-narc not shown his true colors. I never would have realized the slow downward spiral my emotional health was taking and would have continued blaming myself for everything. Instead, I'm in love with a man who has the ability to love in return and could not be happier. Instead of a man who thinks life should always revolve around him (narc), I'm marrying a man who encourages me to go after my dreams everyday and we strengthen each other.

The most difficult thing to relearn was to trust...this quote was inspirational to me...
"You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough." --Frank Crane.

I just wanted to say thank you...I never imagined the pain would go away, but it does. :)