the smirk/grin/laugh

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#1 Nov 5 - 7AM
alocin72
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the smirk/grin/laugh

On the two different occasions my ex N discarded of me, I saw a very disturbing smirk on his face as he's basically telling me 'he can't do this anymore'... as he's telling me that he's done.

The first time, we had lived together and he ended up moving out abruptly and staying with his friends for a while... making out like he was the injured party after a fight we had b/c he completely abandoned me on my 40th birthday. So anyway, he toyed with me... I missed him at the time and he knew that. He showed up at my door completely unannounced with his bag as if he was back to stay (b/c that's what I had previously said I santed... for him to come back. He actually had me begging him after he left me alone on my birthday!!). So I let him in and he put his bag down and he sat on the sofa and we talked. He ended up saying "I came here with my bag to move back in.. to stay. But now that I'm here I remember how uncomfortable it is and how you hurt me. I can't... I have to go." And the whole time he's saying this with a sick, sadistic smirk on his face. I even said to him "why on earth are you smirking??!!... this isn't funny!!" And he would just reply "I know it's not and I don't know why". And then he said "I can't do this...I can't be in this house..I have to go." And he got up and picked up his bag and headed for the door. Meanwhile, he's got me saying to him "No, don't go. Please stay." And things to that effect. He had me begging him to stay!! OMG how stupid of me. But they turn it...b/c if you're strong for a sec and say "well just go then", then they say "see, I knew you didn't really love me". You can't win with a narcissist! And it's so clear now that his visit was just a game that night... he had no intention of staying. It was all to manipulate me more. That was all from 2012. A few months before his first big discard of me.

His most recent discard is Sept 1, 2013 after calling off our engagement. He smirked then too! So sadistic.

I'm wondering if any one else has experienced the smirk/grin/laugh? They literally can't contain it. I didn't know about narcissism back in 2012, but when he smirked at me again this year..this time... that's how I realized what he is. I typed into Google something like "why would someone smirk at you while delivering sad or painful information? " and I ended up finding a page about the narcissistic smirk. Then I read more about narcissism and I was suddenly checking off all the boxes of my ex N. He is a textbook narc. I'm so glad I found this out and have realized.

Nov 6 - 6AM
Luv2bme
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Arrogance and smirking..,

Nov 6 - 2AM
Dee30
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Yep he was always smirking

Nov 5 - 8PM
Janie53
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Alocin

Nov 6 - 8AM (Reply to #9)
HappyToForget
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Janie, I just looked up Attachment Disorder

Nov 6 - 8AM (Reply to #10)
Janie53
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Happytoforget

Nov 5 - 11AM
talktothehand
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My father

Nov 5 - 10AM
gemofagirl
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No, I never experienced the

Nov 5 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
ItsFinallytime
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oh, wow, yes, that SMUG face.

Nov 5 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
Used
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ift

Nov 5 - 6PM (Reply to #6)
ItsFinallytime
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Ugh, Used. Every time I think

Nov 5 - 7AM
Goldie
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Sex addicts DO NOT respect women, they objectify them

Nov 5 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
alocin72
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Yep