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#1 Sep 7 - 12PM
thisisnotfun
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Slap me moment

In reading everyone's stories, I can't help to wonder if these men/women wonder why they can't be in a healthy relationship. I think I keep questioning myself if it really was me but then I slap myself and say.... Look at what you have been reading, his ex wife called him a N, look how he treated you, the emotional/drama ride I was always on..... Slap me.........

Sep 7 - 1PM
Scoop
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Double slap ! I always think

Double slap ! I always think of when things where good between us , we didnt argue , i was happy and semi relaxed , but the minute he started all his bull crap i would not have it so i did argue with him and make comments and i proberly wasnt a very nice person but it was REACTIONARY to him trying to D&D me . What was i supose to do in this situation lay down and take abuse ? Hell NO . He may blame me for the bad feeling between us and let him he should have picked on someone else . Do not blame yourself , if his ex wife called him a N then you are probely on safe ground . We have a saying here in the UK its "if it looks like a spade it is a spade " we call a spade a spade (spade is a shovel) Peru x
Sep 7 - 1PM (Reply to #5)
thisisnotfun
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Yes, I reacted as well.

Yes, I reacted as well. Never had anyone treat me the way he did. I really didn't know why he was treating me so poorly all the time. I caught him on Match, porn sites, yet, he doesn't like sex or itimacy. Couldn't figure it out. Yes, I reacted, I should have just walked away 2 years ago.......
Sep 7 - 1PM
better off
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Nah, how about a hug. :-)

Nah, how about a hug. :-)
Sep 7 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
thisisnotfun
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Thanks but I really need to

Thanks but I really need to look at the facts and start to heal...... From everything I have read, he will go on to treat his next GF the same way. I need to let "Pretend Guy" go for good........ NC is helping but I still wonder if????????
Sep 7 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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Pathology is INCURABLE and DOES NOT CHANGE

http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/04/11/other-woman-now-hes-happy-her http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/04/01/healthy-love-what-world ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck