Six weeks no contact today :)
Six weeks no contact today :)
It's been 6 weeks since my N assaulted me, the first week was sheer hell, looking in the mirror at my bruised and swollen face, wondering WTF went wrong and feeling a deep emptiness inside for what I thought I'd lost. Second week I discovered NPD and the light went off in my head, then came the terror of what he may do to me as I'm testifying against him in court on 15th October, the constant nightmares, jumping every time my doorbell went, looking over my shoulder each time I went out.
I now know that I've not lost, I've finally woken up and gained a new insight into the relationship and am thankful that I am still here to tell the tale :) it's still a rough ride ahead and I'm taking every precaution for mine and my children's safety, but I feel empowered since I found this site. Reading everyone's stories and views have reassured me that I'm not alone in all this, seeing how STRONG and intelligent all the women are on here gives me strength to get through this.
Last week I had another setback, my n broke his bail conditions and started texting, ringing and even sent me photographs in the post of our first holiday together, BEFORE he started to let his mask slip. He wrote on the inside cover that he couldn't bare to look at them as they made him cry, how I should have them and that he would love me always, if I wasn't armed with the knowledge I've gained through the internet and this site I may have waivered and believed his BULLS*IT, instead I reported every contact to the police and they arrested him, so last weekend I was at the peak of my fear threshold again as they only held him overnight and released him again the following day. I know that now he has finally realised that he can't worm his way back into my life again and get me to drop the charges that he will be filled with rage and revenge against me...BUT, I HAVE to stay strong so that he can't keep getting away with this. I've since found out he has done this before and got away with it. His NEXT victim may not be so lucky so I have to do what is right, no matter WHAT the consequences.
I've been reading better off's posts today and she seems so wise and takes no prisoners, I think we all need to heed her advise, she has been there, come out the other side and is stronger for it. I hope that 18 months down the line I have such strength and wisdom.
For now I will keep vigilant, keep reading on this site to keep me strong and try to get through the next four weeks till the trial the best I can.
A big thankyou to all on here who have inspired me to stay strong and do what is ultimately right, hold my N accountable for his actions at long last.
Tracey xxx
desparatehousewife
thankyou thankyou thankyou
your welcome
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GF
congrats.