sista's story
sista's story
I Just Wanted To Matter!!
I met my ex n after I left a 20 year marriage to an alchoholic. We met at work and as I now realize all n's do he quickly homed in on my need! We hung out after work and talked and of course I shared everything and he shared what I wanted to hear. When I look back and relize the conversations and the answers to the questions I asked him it was so easy for him to say the right thing. I was being me honest honest soooo honest told him exactly what I wanted in my next guy and of course he assured me it was him. Here's the catch he was in a relationship that he wasn't happy with(like we haven't heard that before) and i fell for it hook line and sinker!! So I fall in love and he does all the right things and he moves into my condo and it all starts going south. Controlling my coming and going what i watch what i eat!!! How insane was I too let this happen. I was 44 he was 26, and i know what you're thinking was she stupid well yes she was she was coming from a place of loneliness and emptiness and she dove head first. Even when all the signs were telling me run, I couldn't. I was addicted, to the sex to the idea that he loved me....he never loved me he only wanted to control me and isolate me from my daughter and son and grandson. he was so jealous of that baby, and when that baby was just a year old he tried to make me choose between my family and him, and he lost!! He moved back home with his parents where he was when we met.(I just had blinders on so bad) And then we tried again, and again, and again, and finally this October I asked him to leave for good!!! It's been so hard moving on because for the first month and a half he kept contacting me and floating in and out but only for the sex as I came to realize. He was turning me into someone I hated, someone like him, selfish, self absorbed, bitter and angry but I still wanted him to love me, and all i ever wanted was to matter to him but I never will. Hockey, friends, food and the couch are all he wanted and of course the sex!! I'm sure he was ready to cheat on me in the end and that was when I decided to get out. I knew it was coming, I couldn't make him happy and he was making me crazy!! I love God and he knew it and would say that he was god!!He knew all the buttons to push!! So here I am 47 on my own trying to put the pieces of my life back together. Struggling to get through a day with out tears and self loathing, trying not to blame myself is the hardest part right now, I feel like such a failure. I live in a small town and I have to see his truck and sometimes him and when I do my body trembles uncontrollably and I hate that felling that I'm out of control. I have to go back to my gardening business in the spring and one of my biggest contracts means I have to see him daily!! Right now I don't know how I'll do it!! Just the thoughts make me puke and cry and I need closure!! How, how do we get closure!!!
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