Showing off his wonderful new life.. just pathetic..

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#1 Nov 28 - 6AM
ekat
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Showing off his wonderful new life.. just pathetic..

Well, it's bee over 5 weeks NC, and though I have sad patches, I am more or less ok.

After blocking me on all the social medias, he is now using twitter to showcase his wonderful new life to me, with places he's going to, photos of people he is hanging out with.

I suppose it is meant to hurt me, but instead, I just think: what a pathetic looser. When I went to live with him, we never went out and did anything fun. Sure we would go out for dinner some times, but never just our for drinks or with his friends (I was far away from home, so did not have any friends in his town). Basically all he wanted from me was for me to cater to his needs, mainly sexual, he would want it 2-3 times a day, I was just so exhausted.

So now he is Mr. Sociable and "Mr. Look how Many friends I have"! When I was with him, I never met a genuine friends. The people he would call his best friends (even his sisters) were people hed not known more than a month! What does that say about building up relationships..

Well, just needed to say this. I admit, to vent a little, but also just to say, it hardly even affects me. Now that I am not wasting time on catering to him and on over-analysing the relationship and on what an awful person I am, I am actually starting to enjoy life again. And there are no words to express how good it makes me feel.

I know that there will still be hard times and doubts, but the hardest were the first weeks NC, and I want to thank every one of you on this forum for your incessant support at that time.

Big hugs,

Ekat

Nov 28 - 6PM
Susan32
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A year after the final D&D...

It was like a kick in the gut. 9/11 had just happened. There was a loooong article on the internet (it has since been yanked) about the ex-Psych marrying his girlfriend, how she had his twins (a son&a daughter, my friends&I named them Luke&Leia)... and that his parents moved from Massachusetts to raise them. I also found out about the ex-P hanging out with his Daddy in a "causality forum." (Hopefully his father brought a blanket&toys... not for his grandkids... but for his little 37 year old boy) I was UPSET when I read it. It wasn't because I wasn't the bride, but because I had been left out. I had cared about the ex-P, I had wished him a happy life with his girlfriend (tho he deemed that personal boundary violation)... he and I hadn't been romantically involved. I was sad because I wasn't part of the wedding party;I had wanted to see him happy. That would've given me closure. I sent him two brief one sentence emails congratulating him on being a husband&a father... I received nothing in response. Not even an "I hate you" or "f*** off." ANY response would've been acceptable, I got nothing. I called a friend. I was weepy at the time. When I brought up the ex-P's parents raising his kids, she said, "Be thankful you're not in the middle of that drama." She told me not long after to NOT envy his ill-gotten gain when he got tenure. I'll put it this way. The ex-P despised children, calling them "snot nosed urchins." He didn't like teaching;he only did it to mimic his beloved Daddy. So, the fact he became a father&got tenure weren't exactly rewards for a job well done. Enslavement would be more like it.
Nov 28 - 10AM
a65703
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The fuck is with these guys

The fuck is with these guys and SOCIAL MEDIA?! It is really turning me off these sites!! Do you actively use or check his twitter, you know you can block him from that site as well! I believe that sometimes ignorance is a bliss when it comes to the N and his fakery online. But good for you!! All that matters is that you are enjoying your life and not paying attention to his pathetic attempts to get attention from you and more likely others. He is 1 out of 6.8 BILLION people in this world. INSIGNIFICANT.
Nov 28 - 8AM
ekat
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What is really amazing, is

What is really amazing, is that instead of hurting me, this is just making me realise how lucky I am to be out. So eye opening!
Nov 28 - 10AM (Reply to #8)
spinning
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Ekat my sweet, I cannot tell you

how gratifying it is for me to read this post from you! Awesome revelation you have had. Isn't it amazing? Isn't the beauty of NC abso-f'n-loutely liberating and AMAZING??? I am so proud of you. You will not believe the great things that are in store for you the farther out from this you get. Leaving the darkness behind and stepping into the light is where the good life is! At 12.5 months out, I'm here to tell you it just keeps getting better and better. I am so proud of you, Ekat! Most sincerely, (not) spinning. AND IT'S AMAZING!!!!

spinning

Nov 28 - 7AM
Syren66 (not verified)
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How very 7th Grade of

How very 7th Grade of him...was he listening to Justin Beiber while twittering? What a fucktard.
Nov 28 - 8AM (Reply to #6)
ekat
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That really made me laugh..

That really made me laugh.. good one Syren66!
Nov 28 - 7AM
Used
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ekat

IF ONE IS HAVING SUCH A GOOD LIFE, THEY DON'T NEED TO FLAUNT IT, THEY SHOULD BE TO BUSY LIVING IT....WHAT PATHETIC LITTLE MUGS THEY ALL AREXX
Nov 28 - 7AM
empath
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ekat you are so strong!

It is inspiring to read this...you see through his charade and realize how reactive and pathetic his behavior is. There are so many here who seem to get sucked I and hurt by the social media illusion the Ns portray. I am grateful that I had the thought to block him from all social media early on, even before I discovered NPD and this amazing forum. I knew it would only give him a venue for continuing to hurt me, by making sure he connected very conspicuously with OW. He had flat out admitted to engaging in behavior to make me jealous and to hurt me...to get back at me when he thought I was mad at him (that's his eroticized rage issue there) so why give him the opportunity to continue doing so through social media. They really are that shallow and childish and vindictive. NC is our way out.
Nov 28 - 7AM
Sparrow
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He is full of

He is full of soup...........there is nothing wonderful about his life. He knows it, and we know it. He is pathetic. Period. Let him flaunt whatever he is doing.........to someone who cares.
Nov 28 - 6AM
Sea
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Ekat well done 5 weeks NC! U

Ekat well done 5 weeks NC! U are seeing how pathetic he is. Showing off via twitter? Thats a cheap shot. Dont follow his twitter. Cut him out of your life totally. U deserve better.