Should you break NC to send a closure letter?
Should you break NC to send a closure letter?
I have been debating this for the last month. I have been NC for that time. I am struggling with this breakup and I think part of it is because of lack of closure. I know that this is common in a relationship with a narc. A little background, I left my N. I moved home to another state one month ago. He travels on the road for work. The last time I saw him he d&d'ed me, then left for about a week. The very next day he started calling, but he never left a message. The last time he called, a week later, I was already home (again no message). I had originally moved there from out of state. Then moved back to the same state. I haven't heard from him and I think it's because I live far away, so he is done, and he is too cowardly to ever try to get me back (not that I would). It would look ridiculous to ever move back. My N was the silencing type, so I didn't get to speak. I have also learned more during the last month about abuse and NPD. My N has said he deletes emails without reading, but my GF thinks he'd read it. I know some people write closure letters but never send them. For me, I feel like I can only get closure by sending it. I'm safely states away from my N, don't want to start talking again, don't want to even be friends, just a one-time thing. Should I?
It does feed the ego of the
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Still NC and thank you
Noooooooo please don't send
No. Don't send it. I have a
No
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No, he wont react or respond
It was an odd sort of advantage...
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OWML, I have SCARS on my
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Love you too OWML!!! Kindred
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He'll read it and follow up
Write the letter...
In my own opinion, my closure
Very well said, that's how I