shock and awe.some's story
shock and awe.some's story
Jim & I dated for a year and then he moved in w me. We were together 1.5 years. Seemed to get on well. Took me to very exotic places, spent lots on me, gifts, cars etc. He was not controlling or demeaning. He went to all my family functions and adored my mom and kids. He does not have any close male friends. Married 2x, engaged for 7 years. This ended due to his controlling her. I began to notice his rage at trivial things. He did not like to talk about his feelings. He bought a winter home & we were visiting it every few months. He said he wanted to make a home with me and would never cheat on me. He left for the winter on Dec. 5th. I could not be there till Feb for business reasons. At first he would call 2 or 3 a day, then less. I would text him I loved him. No response. His calls became infrequent & he began to act evasive. I asked him about it. "Well I am in Florida and you're dragging your feet about coming". I asked if he missed me. He was evasive. I asked if he was seeing anyone and he said he's dating online. He thought he loved me but things changed. I did not call him. Then I get an e mail saying he was so sorry for what happened didn't want to hurt me or my mom(who he invited to spend the winter) didn't know how to tell me. Said He knew how bad I wanted to come and he wanted me to come. "He always had trouble putting feelings into words. He's sorry he doesn't feel the same about me. But we weren't getting along even b 4 he left(news to me)I would sleep too late, cook too late and not watch TV with him". All of that is true but I am retired and did not want to change this. He wishes we could still be friends but won't call if I don't want him to. He hopes I can forgive him. I know in my heart that when he got there, he got tan and slim, was hanging out at beach bars, attracting a lot of female attention. He is very handsome and charming and I am sure loving the attention. Here is my problem. I sent many valuable items down with him. He says he will bring them back. He asked me to pack his stuff up NICELY! and put it in his trailer at my house. He left many valuables at my house, keys to his cabin, cars, motorcycles, deeds to properties etc. I know the balls in my court and suspect he is appearing sincere to insure the return of his things. I have not responded to his mail. For the past week, I have written a response to him every day,working thru my emotions. I've not sent any of them. I will not take him back. I read other posts about narcs getting revengeful. I don't want to get into a pissing war with a skunk. I need to respond to make arrangements for my things but I'm not sure what to say. If he is a narc, he will dismiss my sentiments I do want to express my disappointment in his lack of integrity. And tell him how he fooled my whole family as well as me. Sorry this is so long. It's hard to sum up a year and a half.
Ugh! Like a clone of my "N"
The slimy ba----rd
He knows he fooled them and
Please tell me what you think