I discovered 7 weeks ago that the narcissist I was with was having a long term relationship for over a year with another woman, whilst also being on dating sites & having sex with other women.
I'd been in a relationship with him for 4 years & tolerated physical, emotional & psychological abuse.
I'd end the relationship that many times, but would always succumb to his manipulative hoovering techniques & no sooner was I sucked back in and the crazy making behaviour we are all so familiar with would start again.
I told the OW about him & she couldn't believe it, she was so grateful I'd told her, she vowed she'd never have him back in her life & you guessed it she went back in no time. I always knew she would take me back as I've been there so many times even when he's been physically abusive to me. I did my best with the evidence I had armed myself with to warn her, but she is clearly in denial & it demonstrated the level of manipulation he will have displayed. I also think it will have given him a superior sense of power that he can do whatever he likes & get away with it, with no remorse.
I suppose the answer I'm searching for is, will he eventually drop the mask with her & will she be subjected to the same dysfunctional relationship I endured whilst being with him?
I'm determined to not let the fact she's took him back impede on my healing process, but self doubt creeps in on, was the issues to do with me?
I did have some satisfaction in knowing one of his previous GF's had endured abuse from him after I had ended the relationship, so I see there's a pattern. How do you heal from such a traumatic experience?