Narcissist Blocked My number

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#1 February 16, 2017 - 10:03am

Narcissist Blocked My number

My narc ex just blocked me last night. Two weeks ago, I initiated No Contact. He would not leave me alone and was begging me. I caved two days ago... I answered his text. Just to tell him goodbye again. Then he said I was cut off. So last night I sent him chocolates because I felt bad for telling him goodbye. Then I text him... he said leave me alone forever. I tried to apologize, he said text me one more time and you're blocked. I called and then he blocked me. I wanted to say something nasty to him but I couldn't. I feel like he may have unblocked me but I don't want to check. I feelso helpless and worthless. He was just begging me not to leave two weeks ago... now he actually blocked me?!! I didn't think he really would... I know he has a new supply. He won't ever admit it to me, but I figured it out over a month ago. I can't stop thinking about him and obsessing. I don't know what to do. I just feel like I'm in a pit of emptiness. I also have BPD so I go back and forth between loving him and hating him. I have a feeling he may have unblocked me but I am too scared to text him
Again and try to find out. I sent a text that said whatever dude. That he's a piece of trash. That I'm way out of
His league and I laid out some insults to the things he's most insecure about. It didn't go through bc I was blocked. I want to send it again but I'm not sure what would happen. My head is spinning and my thoughts are circulating. He was just begging me not to leave, he's never that before. He actually blocked me! I'm so hurt and empty.

August 1, 2017 - 8:18am

DON'T WISH FOR HIM TO HOOVER YOU

I believe you're missing the point. You can't help a narcissist. They will never change (they may but for a short time just until they got you sucked in the relationship again). I can attest to this as I myself thought that I could change him. I gave him second chances only to find myself going insane and paranoid. Yes, they have mental problems and if you don't separate yourself from them, you may end up worse than them. They live in a different world where the only star is themselves. They will never care about you and your needs. They want you because they need you to feed their ego for breakfast , lunch and dinner. They don't want you because they love you. They don't have emotions (even they show they have) thus making them not capable of loving. I believe this is an opportunity for you to RUN. Block him in any way that he can contact you. Avoid stalking them online or in some places they hang out. I know it's hard. I'm on my first week of my total NO CONTACT. I was blessed enough to initiate the NO CONTACT as I realized after 7 months of being in an emotionally-torturing relationship that it's not worth it. I know deep in my guts that he's seeing some other girls even if I don't have any tangible proof. I had enough courage through the help of my friends who never let me go even if I failed them so many times. You can do it also. Do more research about NPD , talk it out so you will not be misunderstood by what you're going through. Lastly, guard your doors. Make sure he won't enter the sense while you're on the process of healing. You got this! Sending lots of hugs to you.

161290

June 12, 2017 - 6:57am

I am the same

I am in the exact same position as you. I mean, how can someone plead for you to take them back for them to throw you away the moment you cave. I confronted him on violent behaviour towards me and broke things off. To which the response was 'I'll change', over and over again...

I also said 'ok' again, this was a big deal for me as i had been hurt so many times but he would just not leave me alone until i backed down. Then it was my fault and i got the 'I've made a firm decision...' line. He then asked me to be friends, which i said no to - it was together or not for me - and then all out block.

So, I was blocked everywhere until one day he unblocks his FB profile, I then 'poke' and am blocked again... There's been some of the silence broken but only to mention that nothing is going to happen. Also, I like to track comms so i know how many times things are read - my goodbye email after his closure email was read 25 times, I don't quite know how to interpret this; maybe he is reminiscing over me, or maybe reading to feed the ego, or maybe reading to show others. Who knows?! Only one person cares - Me!!

So, I am now in a state of over analysing the situation and want so desperately for them to come back and am still awaiting yet another hoover. Perhaps this will come after whatever supply he currently has wears out. I know that you'll all think I'm crazy in wanting this back in my life but, i truly believe that I can help this person to live a normal life. Please tell me the hoover is coming. This does feel like the silent treatment I've had in the past but, is going on for too long now...

August 1, 2017 - 8:21am (Reply to #3)

DON'T WISH FOR HIM TO HOOVER YOU

I believe you're missing the point. You can't help a narcissist. They will never change (they may but for a short time just until they got you sucked in the relationship again). I can attest to this as I myself thought that I could change him. I gave him second chances only to find myself going insane and paranoid. Yes, they have mental problems and if you don't separate yourself from them, you may end up worse than them. They live in a different world where the only star is themselves. They will never care about you and your needs. They want you because they need you to feed their ego for breakfast , lunch and dinner. They don't want you because they love you. They don't have emotions (even they show they have) thus making them not capable of loving. I believe this is an opportunity for you to RUN. Block him in any way that he can contact you. Avoid stalking them online or in some places they hang out. I know it's hard. I'm on my first week of my total NO CONTACT. I was blessed enough to initiate the NO CONTACT as I realized after 7 months of being in an emotionally-torturing relationship that it's not worth it. I know deep in my guts that he's seeing some other girls even if I don't have any tangible proof. I had enough courage through the help of my friends who never let me go even if I failed them so many times. You can do it also. Do more research about NPD , talk it out so you will not be misunderstood by what you're going through. Lastly, guard your doors. Make sure he won't enter the scene while you're on the process of healing. You got this! Sending lots of hugs to you.

161290

February 18, 2017 - 10:46am

Sorry for your pain and confusion

This is how most of us feel when we first come here, hurt, confused, angry, less than, powerless to fix things, struggling to let go and then struggling to reengage. You are not alone, sounds like you have been on this merry go round for awhile now. I go over what you are describing in my blog, the hoover is not a complement in terms of how when they feel you pulling away they beg for your attention and then dump you. A narcissist likes to be in control and have the last word. I admire your willingness to own your part in this dance of the toxic relationship. You admit you push his buttons and then he pushes yours and you struggle to let go. Most of us do what you describe in varying degrees as a feeble attempt to keep them engaged and with us, yet many are not ready to see their own part in the game. You on the other hand are on board with your role. Self awareness is a piece of recovery yet it is not enough all by itself in getting out and staying out as many have found. Many have been on the forums for a long time and still go back so reading and knowing is only one piece of the puzzle. The biggest piece is to have a plan for self protection and ultimately healing and surrounding yourself with people who support and understand your struggle in what many describe is the most difficult and painful thing they have ever had to do, get away from and stay away from the narcissist. Staying with them is an endless pit of mind games and heartache. The bottom line and I'm sure you know somewhere deep down is this man is never going to meet your needs. It's tempting to stay in the game and blame yourself. Frankly this is one of the many excuses we use to avoid the pain of leaving. It must be my fault and if I try harder I can fix this. There is no cure here and there is nothing to fix in them. They stay the same regardless to what we do. We fix ourselves. We fix the part of us which still may believe on some remote level that somehow we are responsible or we deserve this treatment because it is triggering childhood "love" feeling orientations from our primary caregivers or in some cases other reasons. The time is here for you to look at you and begin to learn and practice self love and self care. Much love, Goldie xo

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