goalie1's story

How do I know if he's a Narcissist?

I have been w/ my boyfriend for alomst 5 years. About a year after dating I found 2 reciepts for hotel rooms, he said he let his nephew use his credit card...let it go. Then after being together for 2 years I started to notice he was always hiding his phone or it was off or on vibrate. I had a feeling he was talking to someone that he didnt want me to know about, so I asked, only to be told I was crazy and nothing was going on, untill 9 months later SHE pulled into his driveway while I was there. I forgave him and tried to forgive him and move on. He never showed remorse ( only when he first was caught).

To make a long story short...he never stopped being sneaky w/ his phone but I tried to overlook it. Then this March I found out that he was talking to an old girlfriend for 5 months behind my back and trying to get together w/ her. Every time I ask him if anything is going on he turns it all on me and screams and yells. His phone is off because he "has class & when he is w/ me our time is special and he doesnt want anyone to bother us". I have tried to leave him several times but he has this control over me that I dont understand. I hate being w/ him and get depressed when Im not. I dont know how to get the strength to get away.

When I do he acts like everything I have ever wanted. He lies to me all the time. I just have never been in a situation like this before and I dont understand the control and how to get out.

Thank you