Self doubt - is he really a Narcissist?
Self doubt - is he really a Narcissist?
So I have been asking myself "is he really a narcissist or am I reading to much and trying to put him in that box"? Mind you - I have no interest in getting back with him. Just wondering if I was over-analyzing.
Granted - the therapist I went to in 2007 said he was a narcissist and she predicted his behaviors (and they came true 4 months later).
I went to therapy for the 1st time since 2007 today. New therapist. I just want to make sure I don't repeat this with anyone else. I was really happy when I left - I didn't cry a tear. And when I discussed the whole thing, it was like looking at myself as a different person. I am so emotionally disconnected from him now that I am not sad, or even ANGRY anymore. :-) Yay me!
So I told the new therapist that I have done a lot of reading, told him abt this site, etc. I told him I thought maybe he really wasn't an N because:
- He got very sad and emotional when we broke up and said he "couldn't imagine life without me". Tears, snot, the whole thing.
- He wasn't financially stingy, and he didn't expect em to buy things for him or anything (in fact - he wouldn't let me pay for things most of the time).
- We never got married or lived together (though we lived close and he controlled me from afar).
Other stuff I can't think of at the moment...
He said he thinks the ex BF is a narcissist based on some of what I told him (and it was fairly brief). He also said that just because he was emotional, that doesn't mean anything - said he was sad for him, not me and that not all narcissists get married and expect to have things purchased for them... He said I was probably expected to provide other things for him (very true).
So all in all - a very good day. I am glad I went. I feel so good that I was not sad or crying or ANGRY! I mean - what a change from 6 months ago!
Amy :-)
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is he really a narcissist?
is he really?
Wow