Saw Him Last Night

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#1 Dec 10 - 11AM

Anonymous (not verified)

Saw Him Last Night

Lizard Boy showed up at a tournament, sans OW. In fact, she hasn't been seen at any tournament since the infamous ambush in September...which incidentally, is also the last time he saw me.

Anyway, we're in the same room and I didn't address him at all...had a few drinks with friends, just casual. I went outside to have a smoke and out he comes. Of course. He starts acting like it's just another day and I'm a good friend of his. He starts talking to me...I stubbed out my cigarette while he was in mid speech and I walked inside without uttering a word to him. I didn't do this in a dramatic fashion, I didn't whip the door open, or spin on my heel with a hair flip...none of that shit...just casual, controlled and calm.

Later, as I was leaving, he chased me out into the parking lot. And was calling my name as he was approaching. I had my cell phone in my hand...I turned around and held it up so he could see the numbers "911" with my finger hovering over the send button. Then I said "have I made myself clear?"...left him standing there dead in his tracks, got in my car, and pulled out...again, no drama, no slamming doors.

I hope that's the end of his shit.

#2 Dec 10 - 3PM

CrAzY4trying

ur my hero!!!

That is soooo awesome!!!!! Very proud of you!!!! u are def my hero... must feel great!!!

#3 Dec 10 - 2PM

Sparrow

Great Job! You handled that

Great Job! You handled that interaction perfectly!

#4 Dec 10 - 2PM

ReclaimingPower

Wow!

I got chills!!!!!! AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#5 Dec 10 - 1PM

Anonymus

YOU ROCK!!

That is sooo what I picture myself doing if I were in your shoes... You're my hero!!

#6 Dec 10 - 11AM

needing2know

Isn't it amazing how we have

Isn't it amazing how we have such SELF control when we just don't care anymore? When i got hit it was in a store and he came up behind me and put his hands over my eyes! i stayed so calm , I don't know if you seen that post , but I am so very proud of you!!! You did good!!! They are so not worth it. No reaction is the best reaction! Keep going and stay strong! They are such idiots to think they can just come up to us like nothing ever happened, still blows my mind. But I am very proud of you!!!We are stronger than we think when push comes to shove!

#7 Dec 10 - 11AM (Reply to #10)

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needing2know

YOU ARE RIGHT.... When push comes to shove, they push..... we shove back... THEY BACK DOWN...SO OBVIOUS...SO PATHETIC...SO NARCLIKE!!!

#8 Dec 10 - 11AM

Journey

That's the way to do it! Good

That's the way to do it! Good for you :)

Journey on...

#9 Dec 10 - 11AM

jackguy

sounds like you have your eyes wide open to the danger

sounds like you have your eyes wide open to the danger and that you trust your instincts which is wise. all the best.

#10 Dec 10 - 11AM

jackguy

good on you syren

fantastic way to deal with that situation.

#11 Dec 10 - 11AM

Alisa

OMG, this is beyond

OMG, this is beyond awesome! YOU GO GIRL!

#12 Dec 10 - 11AM (Reply to #2)

Syren66 (not verified)

Indifference is All-Powerful

It's taken me a long time to get to a place where I could effectively pull this off. Didn't want the screeching tires, the out of control driving...just calm and unaffected projection. That takes a lot of control and ya have to be in a certain emotional place to do it. This scene, coupled with my failure to acknowledge his last text to me in Sept (blocked him in fact)...I know it's killing him...he has told me before that he cannot stand being ignored. The '911' bit...I had every intention of hitting 'send' if he took one step more toward me. He's armed...I'm not taking any chances as to what he is capable of. As far as I am concerned, the only difference b/tw him and any other criminal on the street is that I know he's armed. He's no more trustworthy than any other stranger who approaches me. Now that's loss of status! A somatic narc like him...when you are indifferent toward them, it enrages them...they don't simply move on to the next target and forget you...you now become the forbidden fruit..they begin to idealize you all over again, but the loss of control they once had is infuriating at the same time. I feel this is a dangerous time for me...not emotionally, but physically.

#13 Dec 10 - 11AM (Reply to #3)

uk lady

HI Syren

Good work gf. Just keep yourself as safe as you possibly can. Check all your locks and windows/car etc. And keep your phone close by at night. If you feel it is a dangerous time - then trust your gut. You know him best. Dee x

#14 Dec 10 - 12PM (Reply to #4)

Syren66 (not verified)

He stood there in the dark

He stood there in the dark parking lot looking totally defeated...this is not something that makes me feel good. He's simply going to HAVE to one up me now (I know how he is...our entire relationship was a competition as far as he was concerned). I know he needs/insists for me to 'forgive' him for what he pulled in September by bringing the OW into an environment that should be neutral. He knows he was out of line, looked bad in front of a lot of people and he cannot stand that I won't acknowledge that behavior in any way...positively or negatively. I was the target and I did to him that night what I did last night...walked away from him and his drama. What's worse for him is that he cannot justify what he did in his own mind...so he is trying to force a reaction to either exonerate his behavior if I say "that's okay" or justify it by trying to trigger me into going off so he gets to play victim: "see? She's crazy and deserves it!"...he has to just suck on it these days because I won't do either. I truly don't believe he ever thought I was capable of total indifference where he is concerned. I have probably done to him what no other ex of his has...made him feel like the piece of human garbage he REALLY is. He will not rest until I'm back on "his side"...of that much, I am certain...and if it takes years, so be it...that's how these animals tick. I can never let my guard down again where he and what he is capable of are concerned. That truly sucks.

#15 Dec 10 - 9PM (Reply to #5)

uk lady

I see you have put your guard up already

Well done Anon. Put as many barriers and boundaries in place as you feel is absolutely necessary. You might even want to consider some kind of CCTV around your property just so you have recorded evidence for the future and no-one can accuse you of being crazy or over reacting. You are the best judge of what will be required. And let's not forget, you have written evidence of your concerns here on the site too. Take real care of yourself and your son. Dee x

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