Saderbutwiser (Betty's Post) PART l I

LETS LOOK AT HIM: Why does he keep her - Mine is older now so I think age is a factor but when he was younger I know for a fact he had live in long term relationships every three years or so. Here is what my counselor said:

He does not want her for sex, this is when I asked my counselor but why would she stay with someone with a horrible sex life and so infrequently he said, WHY DID YOU? Why did you stay with him when you only saw him what 5 times a year? What was the pull that made you still want to be with this man? Was it just for sex? I THINK NOT. Same goes for her, he views her as a cover he MUST maintain for the sexual predator he is, he isnt going to expose himself to her telling her he wants orgies and all that other sick garbage then her little radar would really go up thinking he cheats. Who knows chances are he has asked her to do that with him thru the years, there is no exact way of knowing but I guarantee one thing if they do do that you can be sure he is doing many many other things on the side behind her back also. Hey for all I know he has hit her but I think he has to be pretty careful being a cop and all that wont look good on the police force. Let me give you an example of just how dangerous my counselor thought this man was, he could shoot her in the back of the head and not think a thing of it, but he is not a psycho KILLER but he has the lack of remorse and conscience to do it.

Why do THEY stay? Why dont they leave these disordered individuals if they are so bad? The same reasons why we stayed and were abused physically and mentally, lied to, and cheated on. Why do some of us KNOW we have to GET OUT? Like many psychopaths some dont reveal how bad they really are to who they are living with,(but some do) I KNOW thats why she stays. I cant imagine very many women openly knowing and accepting a sexual open relationship with their partners. I KNOW he went to great lengths to conceal his affair with me, he was so careful I had to duck down in his truck when we drove down his street, I think that is a clear sign she knows NOTHING about what he does. Its really sad, he has her so outsmarted and fooled and trained to believe he is a wonderful attentive boyfriend when it couldnt be further from the truth. Thats why they stay Saderbutwiser, because they give them REASON to stay. THey give them hope, and the fake love they gave us. There you have it in my humble opinion, the life of a psychopath sexual predator.

I hope I answered your question, we will never know all the answers because as I said before there are just too many variables. Will she ever leave him? EWWW thats another hard question, its a pretty strong bond when you are with a pathological person, NC is killing me trying to break that bond, not everyone escapes but for those that do its the biggest blessing you could ever do for your life.