Rockinven's Story

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#1 Oct 11 - 8PM
rochkevin
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Rockinven's Story

My story. met N about 2 1/2 years ago , we lived together and he left me for someone else. They broke up 12 times in the last 2 years and he came back to me each time. They are done now, he filed a r/o.

So 3 weeks ago he moved back to his parents. 10 days ago we hooked up and friday night we did. This is my question for any thoughts.

He has been really nice the last 2 weeks, and i know he is hooking up with other peopleselling himself. So i am wondering, why he has been so nice the last 2 weeks? My friends think he is building up to wanting to come back when things go bad with parents.I have always been the person with money, he has no job, no friends, and really doesnt get along with parents.I have been more of a caretaker for him. So any other thoughts would be helpful.

Oct 11 - 10PM
ally2375
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rochkevin!

Forgive me if I'm missing something, but isn't this a bit like telling us that your house is on fire and then asking us why the flames are blowing to the left? In other words...wrong question! Let's review: he used you for money, treated you like a servant, abruptly dumped you for someone else, came sniffing around you each time he and the new bf had issues, is sleeping with you again while also whoring himself out, has no place to live, no resources and no friends. And you want to know why he's being NICE?! Ummm...he's not. He wants something and you know it. Your house is on fire and you are just fanning the flames. Why are you still doing that? That's a much better question.
Oct 11 - 10PM (Reply to #10)
rochkevin
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My house is on fire, and i am

My house is on fire, and i am just fanning it!!! I am sorry i dont get what you mean. Please explain so i can better understand what you mean. THnaks...
Oct 11 - 11PM (Reply to #11)
ally2375
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Kev

I am saying that this guy has very clearly shown you who he is and what he's about. And he is about using you, abusing you, and tossing you aside when it suits him. It doesn't matter WHY a toxic person does what he does or what he is hoping to gain. What DOES matter is that you know how this story ends. Why go another round with this guy? Don't let him take any more from you. As you have clearly stated, you deserve better. But you won't find it until you close the door on this dude.
Oct 11 - 11PM (Reply to #12)
rochkevin
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Thank you very much for your

Thank you very much for your thoughts.
Oct 11 - 10PM (Reply to #9)
rochkevin
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I do not know what he wants.

I do not know what he wants. Period!!! Or what he is leading up to!!!
Oct 11 - 9PM
Sparrow
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He is a narc, correct? But

He is a narc, correct? But you have never really practiced NC, correct? You know he is hooking up with other people, correct? And he s living with his parents, correct? I think you already have your answer. And as far as a R/O...............I would bet dollars to donuts, that's a lie. She is the lucky one, she got away. Please read up some more on this disorder. He is bad news and going to continue to bring you down. I wish you believed you deserved better.
Oct 11 - 9PM (Reply to #7)
rochkevin
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OR is he just playing me like

OR is he just playing me like he always has. Getting what he wants, if i am willing to give.
Oct 11 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
rochkevin
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I helped him get r/o at court

I helped him get r/o at court house. And yes he is a N. I know i deserve better. I did 3 monthes of N/C. It was so great... And really dont know why he is being nice at this time... Just looking for some thoughts...
Oct 11 - 9PM
Hunter
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Dude!! He lives with his

Dude!! He lives with his parents?? Loser!! Why are you playing with fire?? I'm not understanding! Of course he's nice, what adult wants to live with their parents... Oh I forget .. Does a narc ever grow up?? Hunter
Oct 11 - 9PM (Reply to #2)
rochkevin
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Question was, why is he being

Question was, why is he being nice? He wanted to move back to parents, just un-usually nice. Actually spent night and did dishes in the morning, this is not him.
Oct 11 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
Unfreakinreal
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You just said it.

This is not him. You know exactly who he is which is clearly not conducive to your happiness. Relationships should be reciprocal. You can't take care of anyone until you take care of yourself. Stay away from him for awhile, get your thoughts together and take a good, long look at what you want. Remember, a great night may come and go, but herpes is forever. Xoxo
Oct 11 - 11PM (Reply to #4)
ally2375
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Unfreakingreal

You're on a roll tonight, I swear! I should assemble a list of your greatest hits. "A great night may come and go, but herpes is forever." Wise, itchy words, my friend.