Right or Wrong - I DID Get "Revenge"

I've lurked on this site for a few months reading your stories and listening to all the pain caused by these "people."

Right or wrong, YES girls - sometimes it is possible to get revenge. And that's exactly what I did :)

The brief story of my "relationship" -

I had actually been acquainted with my narcissist for a few years. We had met at a community college in a creative writing class. He was handsome, creative, seemingly well-mannered -and after the class ended, he and I and a few others kept meeting to work on our stories.

Eventually that group imploded (due to a conflict between the narc and another member) but still he and I and another woman met occasionally for lunch - she and I had corporate jobs, and he worked from home (with his dad - another clue) as a graphic designer.

We only met occasionally - and though I thought he was a bit immature, and callous, it seemed nothing too far out of the ordinary for a guy in his late 20s.

THEN - I mentioned that I was separating from my husband and getting a divorce. And he began the pursuit. All the typical narc behavior over the course of a few months - and ultimately, all stuff that I wouldn't tolerate. He finally abandoned me because I was having a biopsy done and I needed him. When I confronted him about his absence, he disappeared completely. Devalued and discarded

Lucky me that he's gone - and I KNOW IT. So - what was the revenge?

Well girls - this fellow (handsome, seemingly "normal", articulate) come to find out he is actually a registered sex offender in my state.

His crime? Molesting a young girl when he was in his 20s.

Not that he ever told me this, you understand - I found out by accident, as a result of his strange behavior/comments. Can you believe - I was "dating" a sex offender?? And I didn't even know it?? I had been acquainted with this guy for a few YEARS, and I let some child molester touch me?? UGH!

I wished I had known beforehand - wished there was a way to know. Wouldn't you have wanted to know if the guy you were seeing was a sex offender??

You see where this is going, right...?

Most states have a registry for sex offenders - and this is where I found the information. However, most of these sites aren't "crawled" by search engines. And few women would think to go there and search for a guy.

So it helps to post the same information elsewhere :)

So - right or wrong - I did. I used to work in SEO/SEM, and there are sites out there where you CAN post the information, and are crawled by search engines, so now, whenever anyone searches for this asshole's name, the top hits are several different sites that list his name, his DOB, his offense, victim age, his profession, employer - and the fact that he is considered a HIGH RISK offender.

Nothing other than the facts - but the facts show up all over the place for other women to see, because I know he approaches women online, and he used (?) to approach his underage victims online.

So - right or wrong - yes, I got "revenge" (or, more realistically, exposed his deception). And yes - right or wrong - I'm ENJOYING it knowing that he's squirming.

His reaction was classic, the big baby, and the information has since taken on a life of its own. Again, girls, yes, maybe I was in the wrong but he's a convicted felon and child molester, so I just don't feel that bad.

I'm not worried about my personal safety, for a multitude of reasons - but just know that SOME of them DO get a little of what they deserve.

Love and peace and healing to you all :)