reptilian stare

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#1 Sep 1 - 7PM

kiwi10

reptilian stare

I wanted to talk more about this. Mine did it so often. It seemed like he did it more when he was unhappy in our relationship (the evil coming out?).
I have pictures, so many pictures, where you can see it!! I wish I could post them, it would freak you guys out!
Do you think that a man with this stare is most decidedly a psychopath? can non n/psychopathic men do this or is it a stricly preditory thing? Do you guys think this is a manifestation of an evil soul?

#2 Sep 4 - 5AM

lisalisa47

OMG I thought this is one trait my NARC actually escaped, then i

He had this look - did any of you ever see that movie The New Kid? that geek from road trip was in it, you know, "if you let your dog lick peanut butter from your balls it doesn't count, cuz it's your dog?" THAT DUDE. anyway, eddie griffin the black actor/comedian played this crazy guy in jail, and his eyes would get really round and SNAP to the side, and he'd go "are you lookin at my JANET?" The first time my Ex NARC got crazy eyes, I said that to him, Are you lookin' at my JANET? He didn't get it, surprise surprise, but man it sure looked like someone was lookin at his Janet and he didn't find it amusing. He could be smiling then something would come over him and he'd freeze... Hey, do you think they go into "acting" sometimes when they're in a rage? Mine used to say, "watch this" then completely fool someone into thinking he was raging pissed, when he wasnt

LML

#3 Sep 2 - 6AM

faithinthefuture

That evil souless stare

I saw it after I kicked him out & went thru my camera and phone and pics and I saw it for the first time! I mean I truly saw the evil in his eyes and the fake sneery smile. I got rid of all the pics of him! There have been times when I wish I would've kept just one to look at & remind what he really looked like but all I have to do is think of one particular pic and it's all I need. How creepy!

#4 Sep 1 - 10PM

naivenomore

Yes, I have definitely experienced the "stare"

You are not alone on this one as I, too, have noticed that look, as have many of my friends (which they told me after we broke up). Someone likened it to a "Stephen King"-type stare, fixed glaze, also a pasted on smile was present. I have to admit that at first I found it sexy, as if "he must be really into me to be so focused on me like that", but it changed almost instantaneously for me when we started to fall apart. It creeped me out and if I saw it today, I honestly think I'd scream and run! I've looked at a couple of pics of him and I cannot believe what I see today, that I didn't at first - the reptilian eyes are very obvious. Yes, I think it's a sure sign of an ungodly soul tie.

#5 Sep 2 - 1PM (Reply to #14)

Susan32

The Shining

The ex-Psych professor was often compared to Jack Nicholson's character in "The Shining" and he found it flattering.... during one seminar, he imitated the "Heeere's Johnny!" scene when Nicholson's character draws his knife. The ex-P was so blank and emotionless. When I declared my love to him, he REFUSED eye contact. Sometimes I had conversations and he wouldn't even look me in the eye. His face was cold and emotionless while I'd be the one weeping during the D&D. His lack of emotions genuinely scared people. I think he was a born ex-P rather than the result of abuse... because his parents wisely put him in an insane asylum as a child. Why didn't they keep him locked up?

#6 Sep 1 - 10PM (Reply to #13)

kiwi10

the stare

is flattering until you see him do it to other women. all other women, and then when he starts doing it to you with a tinge (or a ton) of repulsion, like he wants to kill you.

#7 Sep 1 - 10PM

aceonelady

reptilian stare

When i arrived at the Tulsa International Airport to meet my ex N for the first time,he was talking to a cleaning lady there...he was sitting on a chair ,looking up toher (she was standing )when i got trough the gate,with some dealay...then i called his name...he turned his head,looked at me with with eyes like a snake,souless,without any emotion like if he was focusing on me to attack...was like frozen eyes....in trance...then when i runned to him and gave him a hugh he snapped out of it and complained he had to wait so long till i showed up....and started telling me that girl had a nephew that worked with Housing Authority too and when she saw his uniform started talking to him....didn't even ask how my flight was 15 hours flight from Amsterdam to Tulsa.....and that he wanted to go home,he was tired.....when i saw those eyes i felt something wasn't quite right....and Yep,he hatried to have sex with me twice,once he did keep it up,and then i saw that look again...and he D&D ME 48 hours after i got there...i now know what is being in hell....

Aceonelady

#8 Sep 1 - 9PM

Susan32

That stare

The ex-Psychopath professor had dark, vacant eyes. He seemed to embody what Nietzsche said of "when you look into the abyss, the abyss looks into you." His total lack of emotion scared his students... and his colleagues were wary of him. I remember once being with my friends and he walked by, staring at me.. and I thought it was love. He seemed INTERESTED in me. He'd speak in an emotionless monotone. What was odd was that when I had lunch with him, I'd often be the one staring at him... because at the time I thought he was handsome. I thought he was sexy. I'd stare at him, then he'd command me to eat my food, etc. I'd the one staring him down. I also felt very tense around him, and he'd say, "Why are people scared of me?" or "Why are you scared of me?" He'd even say during class "You're defending yourself from me." Very odd.

#9 Sep 1 - 10PM (Reply to #8)

kiwi10

susan32

was your prefessor much older than you? your dynamic seems somewhat similar to mine with my 'husband'

#10 Sep 1 - 10PM (Reply to #9)

Susan32

I was young enough to be his daughter

Basically, I was babysitting Dad! He is 15 years my senior. What's odd is that he D&D'd me for a woman who was only 5 years his junior... of the SAME generation as him. He D&D'd a 22 year old for a 32 year old... so much for the belief that Narcs pursue younger and younger prey to feed their feelings of youth. There was a former classmate of mine-who resembled me-he liked brunettes with short hair. She stayed behind to be a professor and was closer to him than me. She died early last year under bizarre circumstances (she had died in her sleep, no COD was ever disclosed) She was only 7 years his junior. Why would a man hit his midlife crisis and ditch his YOUNGER prey for an older woman? Didn't make sense to me.

#11 Sep 1 - 11PM (Reply to #10)

kiwi10

susan

I don't know if you read my story, but my husband is 14 years older than me and an attorney. he was infatuated with my youth initially, then devalued me bacuse i was 'too young and pretty and had a sense of entitlement', he always goes back to a woman a couple years older than him who is plain and really slutty...

#12 Sep 1 - 7PM

gettinbetter

yes the eyes

I have some pics like that as well. It is very creepy. I thinks its the lack of a soul. The inner self is hollow. They always say the eyes are the window to the soul.

#13 Sep 4 - 3AM (Reply to #6)

sweetsamm

the eyes

OMG...so creepy....so the one N,least harmful,had these piercing blue eyes(i swear i didn't notice how blue until he pointed it out,lol..for real),that would look right through me,especially when i pissed him off,but also when he would look at me in deep thought,totally stare.....anyway,the other N,the mean psychopath,well,when he got drunk,i wouild call it rapist eyes....they were vacant and soooo creeeeepy...all my girlfriends knew when i said rapist eyes...

#14 Sep 1 - 7PM (Reply to #5)

cluelessuntilnow

the eyes

my exN has a pretty soulless stare as well. My best GF said he is so emotionless. Now I know why.

#15 Sep 1 - 7PM (Reply to #2)

kiwi10

it's one of those things you just think of as an expression tho

and it's really really creepy when it's true!! Mine were worse at certain times... like sex... and it wasn't blank, it was preditory!

#16 Sep 1 - 8PM (Reply to #3)

anonymous

From the book The Sociopath

From the book The Sociopath Next Door: "I like sociopathic charm to the other mammals who are predators. We watch the large cats, for example, and are fascinated with their movements, their independence, and their power. But the direct gaze of a leopard, should one happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time, in inescapable and tetanizing, and the fascinating charm of the predator is often that last thing the prey ever experiences. I speak of noble leopards, but I have heard abused and enraged victims use metaphors that were decidedly reptilian." Check out think link to Nina Brown's book The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern - http://books.google.com/books?id=jRRP991BqNoC&pg=PA104&lpg=PA104&dq=the+destructive+narcissist+is+driven+by+his+fantasy+of+unlimited&source=bl&ots=rmiaG7fu6s&sig=BmL5IrxoSpSVUDhnqqqihj1I9NY&hl=en&ei=GwF_TK6mIMG88gbr1pzSAw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CBIQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=the%20destructive%20narcissist%20is%20driven%20by%20his%20fantasy%20of%20unlimited&f=false This helped explain things for me. Here's another good link that talks about their stare and other methods of hypnosis. http://masksofsanity.blogspot.com/2009/02/stare-of-psychopath-whats-beneath-it.html And finally - read Emotional Vampires - particularly the sections on Anti-Social and Narcissism..... You will understand the stare. (It's still so creepy to me that we've all experienced it!)

#17 Sep 1 - 10PM (Reply to #4)

tigger73

I am so freaked out by this.

I am so freaked out by this. For the first 3-4 yrs my exhn would just glare at me. I cannot believe I tolerated it at that time. Finally, enough yrs into it, I remember sitting him down and calmly explaining to him that if he conts to do that, my love bank will run dry. Instead I should have said, "Knock it the F*** off!!!!" I just remember at the time, I was completely and totally a victim. I had no power and i remember just feeling like I will do anything and everything to avoid that look. That look. Wow, that is what I used to call it too....'that look'. It was a look of complete hatred for me. A look like he wanted to kill me, and I got that look for simple reasons.....asking him maybe if he could watch the kids for a few hrs while I did something.......GOD FORBID!!!! Narcs NEVER want to be asked to do SOMETHING!!!!!!!!!!!!! They are so sick, I am sickened by this memory. Screw him and his stupid ass looks. He could never make eye contact with me in bed. I could tell early on, if I tried to look into his eyes, he was very uncomfortable and would then lay down on me as to avoid eye contact. FREAK OF NATURE!!!!!!!! Oh, the eye contact and glazed over look, I saw that if he saw a woman in public that was very attractive, even if I was by his side, oh he lost interest in me, the mother of his children, and he was just transfixed. I am getting very pissed off right now writing this shit out. Again, I will gently and politely say it....... screw him and his stupid -ass stupid looks and stupidness.

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