RePosting a brilliant post by Done Sourcing- THIS SAYS IT ALL

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#1 Nov 26 - 6AM
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RePosting a brilliant post by Done Sourcing- THIS SAYS IT ALL

This is my GO TO post by Done Sourcing. I have cut and pasted it to my email address & carry it with me in my handbag. It is the epitome of a relationship with a NARC- thank you ds.... You are brilliant & a gift to this sight.... fm

Whether it is the final discard isn't up to him. He will discard you over and over and over and over and over and over and then some more. And he will come back to do what he wants, and then leave again, and tell you lovely things about the future you will have with him, and then he won't answer the phone when you call. Then he will beg you to take him back when he thinks you are really done. Then he will leave you again. And he will tell you that you are too needy and emotional. Then he will call you eight times in ten minutes and cry when you finally answer. Then he will go fuck another and lie to you that he was sick. Or at a shelter feeding the homeless. Or burying his mother, or at the hospital getting chemotheraphy at three in the morning. He will go on vacations without you, on money he borrowed from you. He will use your car, and bring it back with the tank on empty. He will try to fuck your best friend or sister, and tell you it is because you are too fat or too thin, to tall or too stupid. It doesn't matter to them what they say or do....and why is this so?

Because we let them.

They know they can come back.
They know they can step on us.
They know we are always ready to take more of whatever it is they have to give.

The only thing they respect is silence. Give them silence for a lifetime starting now, and you will be free. Because a lifetime might be a very long time, we make it easier here on the site by starting with no contact. That means we don't talk to them anymore. And we don't respond when they try to contact us. Anything else will get you the over and over and over and over again and again.

You wrote "....is this the final discard why did he do this to me?"

You get to decide if it is the final discard, because he likes throwing you away and watching you wait and suffer. It makes him feel powerful...it gets him off. If you don't know this, you haven't been reading.

What you want is that he stop throwing you away and that he start acting like that guy you first met! He doesn;t exist. That was an act that he performed to get you hooked, and it worked so well you are still wondering where the heck that great guy went. He showed you what you wanted to see, and you fell for the mask.

There are 511 guests online right now visiting this site and wondering how in the hell did they ever get so screwed up over a person who looked (almost) perfect for them. You are in that class, being new here like you are.

Shouting at him will change nothing. Talking to him will change nothing. Sleeping with him will change nothing. He is mean and nasty and cares only about himself. That is the nature of someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The only cure for the victim is complete removal of that person from your life....no contact.

Good luck as you learn these terrible truths about the Narc who hooked you. Get educated to what is really happening, instead of staying stuck on the magical answer that you are hoping for. His personality is permanent and terminal. It's like part of his brain got injured real bad long before you met him, and the good parts won't grow back.

Sorry for the pain, it sucks, we all know it too well. That is why we are here, and it is why we will walk with you and help you learn and grow and get free from him and the insanity that always surrounds him.

ds

ps- I cut and pasted this last part from a very famous dead guy who knew alot about people.

"...Whether 'tis Nobler in the mind to suffer
The Slings and Arrows of outrageous Fortune,
Or to take Arms against a Sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them..."

My interpretation: I was sure unlucky to meet this evil poser, and continuing to let the narc be in my life will guarantee that I keep suffering, but by choosing to go no contact now the biggest block to my freedom and peace will be gone

Nov 27 - 6AM
Deidre99
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I love this, thank you for

Nov 26 - 11AM
Portia
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Done Sourcing's Answer to Devalue & Discard

Nov 27 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
Sickofhim
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" The pain will only stop

Nov 27 - 9AM (Reply to #7)
Portia
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The voices inside your head

Nov 26 - 8AM
IncognitoBurrito
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When ever

Nov 26 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
indifferent
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Me too

Nov 26 - 12PM (Reply to #3)
indifferent
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Erm... What the....?!!

Nov 26 - 7AM
Not-this-time
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FreeMe-