RED FLAGS - WHY DO WE IGNORE THEM?

I have been reading some posts lately and it got me thinking about my own experiences with my narcs. As I sit here, on the tailend of my journey to healing, I reflect on my own experiences, mainly this past year. I want to say that what I have endured, to me, was absolute pure hell, but reading others posts, realize my experience was a cake walk in comparison. Still, they were my "bag of hammers" and were difficult none the less. The heartbreak, the physical pain, the hopelessness, all of it we all experience. I ask myself now, and you will eventually ask the same if you haven't yet........

WHO THE HELL DO THEY THINK THEY ARE????????

The answer to that question? A hopeless, poor excuse for a human being. Who have unfortunately crossed paths with us, loving, nuturing, caring, compassionate human beings.

I know most all I need to know about these men at this point in my journey, of course am always open to learning more, but do know all I need to know in order to move on and not look back.......at least not look back for him/them. I can actually say that this journey, although the worst "I" have ever endured, may not be the worst thing I ever experience in my lifetime, but is at this point in my life the worst and am glad to be able to put it in my past. If not for this experience, I may not know of the "red flags" that I need to be aware of in the future. This brings me to the question I have pondered most during my journey.

WHY DID I WILLINGLY IGNORE THE RED FLAGS?

I know all the reasons why I ignored them. Will NEVER ignore them again. As a matter of fact, will require so much more from a man in my next relationship. I posted yesterday, a little encouraging quote that relates to this. "I can be changed by what happens to me, I refuse to be reduced by it". I can honestly say, I was a pretty awesome chick BEFORE any of this happened to me, and now, I can say, still.........I am a pretty awesome chick!

Any man who has the opportunity to have me COMPLETELY, is a pretty damn lucky man as far as I am concerned. I now, more than ever, know my self worth.......and for this and only this, I can thank my narcs. If not for them, and their lack of love and respect for me, I would have never traveled down this path and learned my TRUE self-worth. Nor would I have met so many wonderful people from all over the world that have helped me get my worth back, and for that I am grateful as well!

A BIG FAT MUAH TO ALL OF YOU! (That's a kiss for those that don't know) YOU ARE MY SISTERS, MY BROTHERS, MY FRIENDS......

THANK YOU, ALL OF YOU. :)