RED FLAGS, THAT I IGNORED
RED FLAGS, THAT I IGNORED
Hind site is always 20/20. But reviewing the beginning of the relationship here where my red flags:
1. A fleeting feeling that I said to myself "It seems like he has always been in a relationship!"
2. Never took responsibility for the ending of any of the relationships.
3. Had no real closeness to any of his family, including his children.
4. Work history was very poor.
5. Had a huge sob story, I won't bore you with the details, but I felt sorry for him. Felt I could HELP HIM.
6. Immediately was jealous, I thought wow he really cares!
7. Punched his truck when we were out drinking because he got jealous. We were both drinking......I am now sober and ended the relationship. Booze played a big part in me not seeing these red flags.
The idealization phase was like nothing I had ever experienced. I was his princess. I was the smartest, cutest, sexist person he had ever met. And I ate it up! It was wonderful. I had never felt like this before! I really thought is was for real. But then the first D & D. I was in shock. I had no idea what happened. I begged him, he was my soul mate, how can you leave, over nothing. Begged him like someone with no self esteem. And he came back, and then the real fun starts! The patterns are all so similar. It's scary. And he has made hoovering attempts. He could be the last penis on this earth, and I would cut it off before I would give him the time of day. Wow! Writing really does help. It helps you see the soul sickness, the abuse, the patterns. Thanks guys.
Love Jen
I kept my dignity during the D&D - I refused to beg!
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The list was pretty much how
Some on your list matter fact
grateful jen, you
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