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Recovery from exN relationship, and physical health

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#1 Jan 23 - 6PM
Amazed
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Recovery from exN relationship, and physical health

I have recently developed tinnitus, very strange. I believe it is due to stress related to trying to find which way is up and sort out all the struggles from a personal and professional relaitonship with a pathological N.

NC is the only way to recovery.

Has anyone developed stress related health stuff like this?

I believe it will get better.

Jan 25 - 9PM
Chloe
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My ears are ringing....

Hi Amazed: I developed Tinnitus this past year, and as a result, lost 25% of my hearing. I lived with a pathological narcissist for over 23 years and had the divorce from hell, along with all its aftershock. I am a migraine sufferer and thought that the tinnitus may have developed from all the Excedrine I have taken---can be caused from medication and aspirin. I have fibromyalgia (under control), and other stress related diseases, however, for the most part I am much healthier today. Things will get better! However, the bad news is that Tinnitus, for the most part is here to stay. You say you struggled with a personal and professional relationship with a narcissist, my question is: from the same person? No contact and therapy is the best road to your own positive mental health.
Jan 25 - 8PM
baddream
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Mind-Body Connection

Ulcerative colitis flare ups--autoimmune (needed to be treated with prednisone--very serious) Bad allergies, sinus infections Lower back pain/spasms/sciatica panic attacks/anxiety (needed xanax) weight loss I feel much better physically now that I have regained control over my life and he is gone. The above problems are gone for the most part, but when I hear from him everything goes haywire. There is no doubt in my mind there is a mind-body connection here.
Jan 23 - 11PM
inrecoverynow
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health issues

I was married to a NPD man for 25 years, will soon be finally divorced. I developed psoriasis and eczema, chronic headaches, eye ticks, and depression. Also, a dependence on prescription pain pills to numb out. Am in counseling and attempting to recover. The stress of living with this kind of person does make you sick, and stress can kill. After 25 years of this, believe me, it wasn't worth it.
Jan 25 - 10PM (Reply to #10)
Chloe
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Hang in there

While the ghost of the narcissist lingers long after he himself has left, I can't stress enough how important therapy benefits those of us who are left with the ramifications of living with pathological narcissism. Be true to yourself!!!
Jan 23 - 10PM
nhtmf
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YES !!! insomnia, neck

YES !!! insomnia, neck pain, fatigue, hiccups, belching.......my once bikini ready stomach now looks like I'm about 7 months pregnant from all the cortisol which I have no idea how to get rid of, UGH. Also size 7 is now a size 14. Just disgusted......
Jan 23 - 10PM
Jessika (not verified)
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I have

adrenal fatigue that I am trying SO hard to work through. Definitely related to my relationship with N.
Jan 23 - 9PM
rache
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Vampires?

People have commented how drained i looked when i got away from N and every time i went back it was as if the life were sucked out of me.Funny thing,is,he said HE'D live longer,and,just KNEW it,if,i were with him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!makes one wonder IF vampires are real.
Jan 25 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
itreallyisabouthim
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Drained...yes...and...

Old. I hate to say it but I've aged horribly in this relationship. STBX smiled once in a devilish way and said "I've aged you, poor thing". My body began hurting almost immediately after meeting him. I now have chronic pain, possible fibro. I have costochondritis and am slightly deformed from it. I am just not the same. I'm sure tinnitus and who knows what else could be from stress and we know how stressful N's are. Stress increases the odds of any malady surfacing - across the board.
Jan 23 - 8PM
quietude (not verified)
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amazed

That's interesting that you mentioned that. I had a bad sinus infection in the Fall, and get them a couple of times a year, but this time had a bad case of tinnitus around the same time. VERY loud ringing in my ears...it was awful. The infection was gone, and I still had the ringing. It was scary, and worried me, but eventually went away after a couple of weeks. I still get it occasionally, but nowhere near as loudly. I've also read that it can be associated with menopause, but I'm not sure if you're near that age-range. But yes, STRESS is listed as a trigger. As Barbara has mentioned, health issues related to the stress we suffer can be numerous.
Jan 23 - 7PM
Empathy
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Yes absolutely!! You're not alone there

I developed gastrointestional problems and extreme fatigue. I already suffered from depression ( 10 years of living with my ex narc) so I knew how to manage that. It will get better... it's amazing what stress does to the body.... but take care of yourself, rest, walk, drink water and in time you will heal. Both physically and emotionally. Love Jo I WILL Survive.
Jan 23 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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Narcs & our health

be sure to discuss with a DOCTOR and your therapist asap this has been discussed a number of times on this board if you'd search around the Message Board. http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2008/05/your-medical-conditions-is-root-your.html ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 23 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
GhostBuster
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Oh yes

It's been talked about a lot here that emotional and psychoogical abuse inflicted by the N leads to physical ailments. the first few months of NC I thought my anxiety attacks were heart attacks. I've just recently gotten my vision back (thanks to EMDR therapty), but whene stress hits at works, it comes back in a lesser form that initial NC. I have adrenal fatigue and PTSD. I have a new friend. A neighbor who moved into my neighborhood in recent months and we went out to dinner a couple weeks ago. She got into my car and commented that she needed some lipstick because she felt like there's no blood flowing to her face. I had suspected she'd been abused by her ex husband (alcoholic) and I knew exatly what she was talking about. That feeling like you're not even alive...no blood flowing to face or various areas of the body...legs, hands, feet, etc. We talked more indepth that night about it, and turns out she was emotionally and psychologically abused by her ex. And I suspect he could be an N. Not that I am happy she was abused, but it is amazing to talk face-to-face to someone about these things who gets it. So yes, huge physical effects that shouldn't be ignored.