Is 'real life ' boring???

I hope that I'm not board when I have some recovery under my belt, I hope I am changed or content to have NO MORE DRAMA. Peaceful. I am looking for this new life. Drama free. I hope your not board Sweetsam. Iddle time is the devils playground, or something? XOXO

I think "boring" is more in the mind of the beholder. Not to offend anyone, my apologies if it sounds insensitive. The sheer number of things to do, pay attention to, fiddle with, think about/write about, plan for . . . But that's only been lately, in the last few years. I used to dread boredom, and I think it was part of a cycle of drama/boredom. Unless I was all caught up in something dramatic (there IS good drama too), everything was kind of grey. It was like I felt "this isn't enough" about my every day life. I don't feel like that anymore. My life would be considered powerfully boring by most. And disgusting (all the farm animals :D). I think I'm more into the "deeper" experiences of my life. Not just skimming the surface maybe? Or maybe I had my "fill" of dramarama with the last Narc and something inside me shifted. I don't feel boredom. I feel contentment. A sort of peacefulness. It is very pleasant, but not terribly exciting :D. It's there but of course I have all the annoying and bothersome stuff that plagues everyone's life. Who said that "boredom" came before contentment? I'd never heard that one before. That rings true for me, anyway.

I dont think its that life is boring so much. I mean sometimes it is. It's just that the high you get from the Narc is unatural that why we become addicted because its like nothing we have ever experienced.

After the initial shock and debilitating depression it did seem boring. It takes a while to work through the depression and then to finding real passions (or rediscovering them) or finding different people to do things with. He always sold himself as the "fun one" -- he wasn't. I have done SO much more this last year with out him than the previous four years with him. I skied with him and did it without him too and will have a great time skiing without him this winter as well. I have gone camping and to concerts in SF...etc... and those are just a FEW of the things (not mentioning the great professional and spiritual year I have had). There is a whole wide world waiting. Peace. J

Try not to think of it as boring just yet... Think of it as peaceful bliss, were you can finally string more than half a thought together. You can do as you please or do nothing at all. Try to enjoy this little break for what it is because eventually life will happen again and before you know it you will be longing for those lonely boring days :) I spent T-day at my daughters. It was fun, it was pleasant,but boy did I enjoy coming home to my quiet boring little home. I recently have had contact with N (divorce issues) and it made me appriciate all the more the *boringness*. Go to the movies, join a gym, learn to knit or do stitching, start to scrap book, or take some classes...this is YOU time...whatever your heart desires for now...the rest will fall in place in its own time.

That's what he'd tell his fawning young male followers, but not to my face. Too cowardly. It's because I didn't like the constant drama. He confused real life with "War and Peace", and yeah, he was the Boring One.... His lectures are a non-medicinal substitute for Valium. Gives a whole new meaning to "I wanna be sedated."

People chat to me about 'how u doing?' etc. hows life treating you?' and when i get on about living on my own its well its OK but it's soooooooooooo boooooooooring... And that's because we know what we want out of life, what we are doing etc. there's no one to give us that 'grit', you know - the bounce... and the rest. What you put it in is what you get out. And let me tell you this.... happy people attract happy people (but watch out for them who wear masks!! ;)) So stay happy, keep going, try different things, do what YOU want to do. I'm meeting up with some new people on Thursday.. i have a date lined up for Friday.. I make my life what I WANT IT TO BE. I'm not gonna work to someone else's agenda ever again. If something happens and i fall in love... which would be v nice, then great, but if it doesn't then i'm going to have a great time looking for it! At least I'm keeping it REAL.. not like some people we could mention eh! Keep going Sam you're doing great. x

nothing wrong with boring, better than being stressed out all the time or anxious like i always felt with the man. You are not alone in the wondering if i will ever find a good man, I have been asking myself that very question. I like many of us would like a shot at a good and health relationship this time around! it is not easy finding a man of characater and integrity plus humor, which is what I am looking for...............i guess you have to count your blessings of what you do have is GOOD.Ihave very little family, my son and sister live in other states, no folks, so I tend to feel lonely a lot even though I enjoy my company, but at least i have a few friends and my health.

boring is GOOD.. as i said to someone, my life is so settled and structured and boring, and its great. no drama with narc , no dreading answering phone to hear,where the fuck are you, no texts that gave me a stress tummy, no wind up when with him, just chilling and him saying, see her, her, her, i f;;ked them, no where have you been, and who with ECT ECT..BOREDOM I DO BOREDOM NOW< boredom, time to read, watch tv, come here ,visit or have normal visitors. normal convos, not his depressing ones that always made me feel suicidal, AND HIM ON TOP OF THE WORLD.. if this is boredom keep it coming. even i hadnt relize the extent of his GRIP on me until i realy got out, tho 13mnths nc the first 6/7 months he was on my mind all the time, now like yesterday, it can be a couple of hours and i think of him but fleetingly....thank god.best wishes to one and all.

Anyway, I'm sure there are lots of activities you can get involved in with your kids. Where I live there's lots of free concerts and festivals and things to go to. Get out and start living a bit more. Try something new. Maybe once a month, do something different. Each month try to top the last. It could be anything from trying a new kind of cuisine to bungee jumping. Give yourself something to look forward to. And boring won't seem as bad as it sounds.

boring is great, google emotional scale, and you will see boring is right before contentment, then hope, then optimism, then joy and so on. You have simply moved up the emotional scale, find a better feeling thought, that brings you relief, that must be contentment, I guess. And then see if hope brings you relief...you are on your way!!!!