Psychology of Victimhood, Don't Blame the Victim by: Ofer Zur, Ph.D.
Psychology of Victimhood, Don't Blame the Victim by: Ofer Zur, Ph.D.
The only thing I might modify about this article, is the fact that I think there is a time to embrace victimhood - acknowledge you've been harmed...then do the work to recover...but I am doing a lot of research as I think the basis for a lot of our questions of the why are more altruistic in nature...I think the FEAR of lonliness is a very human condition - and I think that a lot of the "issues" we have are universal...core wounds etc...but that they can be overcome without accepting blame...a lot of these theories put the blame right back on the victim and I think that is very damaging. I think the key is learning how to deal with our own "humaness" learning how to tame those insecurities...those doubts, the shame...and not feeling "flawed" or to "blame" because we are "perfectly imperfect"...in a society where a stomachache is "labeled" a psychosomatic illness...I think it is a breeding ground for a host of "mental illnesses" that can all be cured with various "methods" be it drugs, voodoo chants...my personal favorite...potato water...LOL
I guess my "core" concern is given our vunerability to "brainwashing" that we remain mindful that those techniques are not the narcs only. Because of my background in communications, advertising although not done professionally, I somehow have this uncanny ability to read between the lines...sometimes too analytical...sometimes that's my flaw...but as I'm reading and doing research, more and more certain thoughts are coming to me and I think I'm doing a disservice, by not at least offering the flip side. That what this is about...offering the flip side...not giving you what you want to hear but challenging you to think outside the box because sometimes that is where the truth is...we look in all the wrong places. Anyone can sell you anything. We can sell ourselves anything. But since it's a journey...WTH...might as well examine all of it...
Hugs!
BLURB: *hyperlink to article below*
Similar to the rights movement is the recovery movement. In the last decade we have seen an explosion of 12-Step programs attending to an endlessly growing list of addictions. Many of the 12-Step programs help their members master recovery and discourage feelings of blame and victimhood. However, within the recovery movement, some programs like ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) and CODA (Co-Dependants Anonymous), can easily perpetuate the membership's sense of victimization instead of enhancing their sense of self-mastery and personal power (Kaminer, 1992; Tavris, 1993). Identifying oneself primarily and over long periods of time as an adult child of an alcoholic is to embrace the permanent identity of a wounded victim. While becoming conscious of the original family dysfunction and its effect on the individual is often necessary for healing, it is only the first step. Remaining indefinitely with ACA groups not only keeps people in the mode of the victim, but also prevents them from growing to a place of empowerment and choice. While programs such as AA, NA, GA, and OA attend to a specific addictions, the co-dependency movement assumes, ludicrously, that 96% of the population are victims of a disease they call 'co-dependency' (Schaef, 1986).
I know this man! WEIRD!!!
WOW...TLSM
Something that cought my attention in what you said..
"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess
yes.
Sickofit...
caution me one last time....
That's a good question sick of it...
fair enough but I wont be any
When you cool down
I'm Strong