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PROJECTION and YOU

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#1 Feb 14 - 12PM
herlatestvictim
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PROJECTION and YOU

I came a cross this fabulous excercise on the internet yesterday while I was searching for "how to stop loving a narcissist":

Write two columns; one lists all of the qualities and ways you felt BEFORE you met the narc and the second column list all of the ways you feel AFTER the narc, about yourself, etc..

Column 1 is YOU. Column 2 is the what the NARC projected on you and, in fact, it's really how the NARC feels about him/herself!

This excercise rang very true for me. In the aftermath of the narc I have felt undesireable, depressed, suicidal, in a huge amount of pain... and that's what she feels, that's why she makes everyone else so miserable, that's why she takes wonderful people who she envy's and tries to destroy them.

I deserve better. I will never stop feeling pain if she has any part in my life.

Feb 14 - 2PM
Maya (not verified)
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Wow

very powerful, thank you. I have read a lot but only recently has the idea that they target people with great qualities so they can feed off your energy and steal your soul. His NS is a Ph.D from a top school and 700+facebook friends who is also very close to her family. I'm sure she is a wonderful woman with lots of interests. I feel so sorry for her and how she is about to be used. I wish I could warn her but that's not my job, my job is to take care of me. I hope her smarts win out and she drops the dud before he does to her what he did to me.
Feb 14 - 4PM (Reply to #4)
Ophelia
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Soul...that's

Soul...that's interesting...back in the early days of us, my n was obsessed with an image I'd posted of myself online...made a comment about my soul shining through and how beautiful it was... told me he couldn't stop looking at it.. then it seems he proceeded to try to plunder my soul for all that it was worth to him.. he tried but did not succeed. My energy stores are rock bottom for a while but my soul remains mine. I really hate to be overly dramatic with the language but after his conduct with me it all just feels so evil now. Devoid of goodness, at any rate.
Feb 14 - 12PM
Sparrow
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Excellent exercise! Thanks

Excellent exercise! Thanks for sharing!
Feb 15 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
Maggster
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This is hard for me to do

This is hard for me to do because I was depressed when I met him- the line is really blurry for me. Additionally, I was painfully shy...