Problems with the word NO in real life?
Problems with the word NO in real life?
I'll admit..I am a giver. I will sacrifice my own schedule to help others, family and friends.
I often get mad at myself later on for running myself ragged at everyone elses expense. Everyone else can say no.
And this time around, I am just plain tired. N put me in a tailspin and I have NO WISH for any kind of male company of which I EVEN REMOTELY SUSPECT is going to elude to something more.
Believe me, people are trying.
Got a msg on facebook thru my Emergency Mgmt directors friends list.
He messaged me that he found my "twin" on Match..I thought I hid my profile, I did not, apparently...It is from 10 yrs ago!
Me: I just broke up with someone a few wks ago....dating detox right now. I thought I hide my profile. BossMare is me. 7664 is my birthday...My kids went to school in Wellington and I divorced a cop from there. Long story there. Found out about his affair via the morning journal. Not a good way to wake up!..
Him: I'm not sure what to say to that ... I'm sorry, and you're not the first to be in that situation, although I was spared reading about it in the newspaper, she was just careless. You were in my (Match) "favorites"- you probably already know that - I was trying to work up a way to approach you. In a roundabout way I'm asking you out? How's that for smooth?..
Me:I need to heal myself before I can even consider trying again. I divorced in March of this year after a year separation and actually my ex is my best friend, still. We just grew apart. But this year has taken the wind out of my sails as far as dating goes. This last guy really, really took a toll on me. Why are your working up courage?
Him: I'm not looking to break any hearts - not capable of that anyway ... I find you very attractive, and would enjoy the pleasure of your company over - wings and beer? Bagels and coffee? I'm harmless, and we don't have to start "dating". Paramedic, I'm a healer
Now, this pisses me off, actually. I told him I was fresh out of hell, not in a good place, not looking for any kind of company and he is still getting pushy.
Yes, I am a paramedic too. I am healer as well. But you already proclaimed your atraction to me, your wanting to ask me out, wanting to spend time WITH me.
What about respecting what I WANT!?!??! I told you what I needed. You messaged me. I told you flat out what I wanted, what I got out of and what I needed.
OMFG I am so pissed right now just reading this. Am I off the mark here that this guy just totally ignored everything I just said!?!??!
Good on you!!! Now there is a
BIG red flags when i read the
He tried again!
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
Hey TMamma
My last reply
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
Oh Well. . .
TraumaMamma
His last reply to my bitch mail
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
girlsinger
Just detach. Trust your
Ugh!
Well..
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
I know exactly how you feel