porn, Narcs, and intimacy

A recent remark that a friend made got me thinking... her personal opinion: "most men prefer to watch porn, and the majority are addicts"

That same afternoon I read an interesting, yet disturbing article about a man in his early 20's claiming that he felt that his exposure to porn in his teens ruined any intimacy in real relationships with women. Here is the article in case you want to have a read:

Did Porn Warp me Forever, by Isaac Abel via Salon.com

http://www.salon.com/2013/01/13/did_porn_warp_me_forever/?mobile.html

While I realise that my friend's statement is a steep generalization, and the article is of course only one man's story out of how many, it did remind me of Ns and how so many of them are addicted to porn.

I'm pretty sure N must have been a porn addict (even though he claimed that his w was the addict-yeah right!). After reading the article a lot of things this young man described rang true with how 'intimacy' was with the N. A few examples were ED, fear of intimacy, keeping eyes closed throughout, violent fantasies towards women, masturbation and sexting etc...

In short, while I think that watching porn may be the thing for some couples to enhance their r/s, (not judging anyone) I also think that too much of a good thing can do harm. It saddens me that future generations have so much exposure to porn and that this hinders their future intimate sexual relationships. It gets me thinking, and I wonder, like Goldie's recent blog post, The Unfortunate Rise in Narcissism, does the unfortunate overexposure to porn contribute to this, or vise versa?

Is our society becoming an autoerotic, self serving, entitled, self gratifying place to be? I often wonder if my children will even procreate!? I know that I enjoyed having sex in my previous r/s's as well as in my marriage, but is having sex with another person and REALLY enjoying it going to become a thing of the past?

I know my thinking must sound far fetched, but it's just one of those things that makes you go hmmmm...

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