Please will everyone really think before leaving the forum

your post made me feel that at least here at the forum the nonentity me is still loved and welcomed. So many things have been happening in the past 2 moths, that it has all snowballed into making me feel like an outright Loser. Husband is madly in love with his floozie gf. guy who reconnected after years ...romanced the daylights out of me and suddenly dropped me. I am alone and humilated. i am not interested in any other man. cant force myself to get into some r/s just because i am alone...friendless and loveless. i really feel down today. and it hurts my psyche and ego and physical well being. I know i need to LET GO of everything. How do i do that when i have no alternatives or options? How do i live my life in this begraggled state of emotion? Thank yu snowflake, your post carried a subliminal warmth. Or have become soooooo starved of love that i am willing to pick up any cue whatsoever to feel wanted? I wish i had better sense. I wish i had not fallen in love so madly. I feel humilated because i know that xbf is now feeling so relieved that i am gone...and i have also sensed that him and his best friend may have discussed me extremely negatively. I know i must stop obsessing on how they may be discussing on how nutty i am....or maybe i am now too insignificant for even that? these are the thoughts raging inside my head. I feel my head is going to explode.

Why is there always this little bubble of negativity that pops up on this board? This is no place for that, on either side. Don't feed into it. Let's move forward, and help those who want the help. Some of us are actually open to giving and receiving it, you know. Look, we are each in different stages of recovery. DENIAL is one of those stages. It's something we've all had to work through. Some of us didn't even listen to our OWN friends or family, let alone a stranger on the internet here! It's just another step in the process. If someone is given advice they aren't ready to hear, so be it. Have a little compassion for the stage each of us are at. You can't rush recovery. Not everyone responds to "tough love." Particularly, those of us who are used to N's abusing us in the name of "tough love." In which case, "brutal honesty" can be triggering for some. A measure of sensitivity and understanding is needed in that respect. Otherwise, all you're doing is bullying, with the intent of educating. It's ineffective when ego enters the conversation, on either side. You can't force someone to have a realization they aren't ready for. But you can try! So, I say, leave it alone. Let it go. That's one person's journey. Some of us need to learn the hard way. As a moderator, I'm sure it's frustrating. But, you know when someone is ready to fully understand the advice you're giving them, and when they are totally in the stage where they HAVE reject it, and delude themselves, just to get by. To some, that's enough. For others of us, we are ready and willing to dig deeper and live a more meaningful existence. Focus on that. Take solace in the fact that, at least you've planted the seed in their mind. We don't have control over anyone else but ourselves. God helps those who help themselves. Ultimately, the choice, and all of the work, is up to each and every one of us as individuals. We found this site, luckily we don't have to go through this alone. For some... maybe going at it alone is preferable.