please help - nearly taekn in by hoover manoeuvre

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#1 Nov 23 - 9AM
Qing Yuan
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please help - nearly taekn in by hoover manoeuvre

I made the mistake of thinking i could reconsiliate with my childs father, my ex narc husband, he let me in his house drunk, we had sex, horrible rough, non-intimate sex, at first it was okay but it just got so weird until we both stopped becasue it was clearly so unpleasant for me that the dream of our reconciliation was dead and it pleasure of my discomfort was so blatant that i no longer held any kind of candle for him. I lleft more free than Id ever been. he remained his usual self, cold distant and blameless.
then just recently he starts texting me mesages about our son adding kisses ( he never did that before) on, saying 'how are you' and 'I hope that you are well' and just a noticeable difference.
What in the world must be goin on in the nacrs heads now??
I am geared up, this is a hoover.
but it twists within me and I feel sick to my stomach.
he invited me for dinner today.
Wow now I know something is going on. I told my mum and she said 'maybe he is lonely' ha my poor sweet naive mother. to think of him on her own terms.
No I expect the girlfried he pines after is denying him supply, perhaps she has found a new sqeeze, I hear that she does that... perhaps he is tired of his own company, needs some supply, any kind..
he doesnt love me, he catogorically tells me whenever possible through out the 7-8 years I have known him, and yet he says he is disapointed that we are not going to meet to talk about our son.
maybe its possible that this is just abotu our son and he wants to open genuine lines of communication, but after the lies, the manipulation, the abject insanity that led me to lose my whole being, this does not make sense..
this is a hoover right??

Nov 26 - 12PM
Qing Yuan
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im proud of myself

Nov 24 - 11AM
IncognitoBurrito
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What are you doing?

Nov 24 - 7AM
Hunter
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Bottom line you are addicted

Nov 24 - 7AM
Deidre99
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Unfortunately, since he's a

Nov 24 - 4AM
LightAtTheEndOf...
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Qing Yuan, I read your post

Nov 24 - 3AM
Walkingonsunshine
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I remember your last post.