Please help me! I feel like I am going to die... :(

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#1 Apr 6 - 3PM

TLSM

Please help me! I feel like I am going to die... :(

Today is my birthday and I can't believe what I saw...
Just to recap, my 48 ex narc just a month ago was going to propose (after dumping the 28 year old infront of me on phone). He promised he'd change and was going to buy me the ring to prove he wanted to move forward with me and marry me.
He saw that I was still angry and hurt and when I went to see him, decided to not buy the ring. The next day he went back with the 28 year old leaving me devistated.
Today, I had to reactivate my personal Facebook account so that I can transfer friends to my business page. I read somewhere that if I block people from my personal, and since I am administrator to my business FB page, they'd be blocked from seeing both - therefore more importantly I could not snoop on HER account or his business page.
In order to block her, I wrote her name and her profile pic came up.
It was a picture of them together, arm and arm. I cannot explain the feeling of seeing that. I felt like I would vomit. After 4.5 years together, I have NEVER seen him arm and arm with another girl, since me. It was HORRIFYING.
They look very much in love and I am HEARTBROKEN. He just moved on to her so fast after what he did to me. He wasn't serious with her AT ALL until he D&D'd me.
What a fucking GREAT birthday present. I am sick and I can't stop crying and I have to pick my daughter up from school soon, and go out to dinner with my dad and his wife which I DO NOT WANT TO DO.
It is so shocking to see him with another girl- together, arm and arm. SO HAPPY. SO IN LOVE.
Please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#2 Apr 7 - 11AM

neverlookback

I see you are relatively new with us

I have also had those feelings like I was DYING inside, in fact I just posted how THEY KILL US under HOW COULD I HAVE DONE THIS TO HER, you might want to read my thoughts on this and how they DO indeed slowly kill us and what you are feeling right now. I would rock myself on the floor, I just curled into a little ball and tried to focus on breathing and just rocked myself crying in hysteria. I came across some old clothes I once wore, they were a size 6, and I am 5'8 so that is pretty damn thin, I lost over 30 pounds from the shock of finding out what this man was, I remember those days I walked around like a total zombie, now I am back in my size 10's and look much healthier. This stage is a process and I am sorry to say you will have these moments, but honey you will NOT DIE, your heart is broken and your life is broken you have experienced utter betrayal, but I want you to know a year from now you will NEVER forget that betrayal that was done to you, that will be your strength and you hang on to that for dear life. That betrayal is what has made me strong today and why I continue my 3 month NO CONTACT. Yes I too have seen him side by side with his GF vacationing I believe in some tropical island together, mmmm wonder how that could be as he professed his love for me and how their relationship was not at all good. Stringing me along as he was building a 1/2 million dollar home for he and his little woman, hey what can I say, UTTER BETRAYAL and extreme violation of my very soul. You can rest assured they are NOT very much in love, oh SHE IS, but if he is a true narco path she is the only one doing the loving. With them NOTHING, I mean NOTHING is what you see, what you see is NOT what you ever ever get. If you have the means get some good professional counseling, that is vitally important when you have been traumatized like this. This too shall pass I promise you. x0x0x0x0

#3 Apr 7 - 9AM

Deidre40

The world is very round

Remember that saying. :=) She may cheat on him, in other words. lol I'm so sorry this happened. I think FB is evil. I deactivated my account, and never looked back. I don't know what my current bf has on his page. I have a friend who tells me she keeps an eye on it. I have not asked her to do that. The other day he said to me an old friend from highschool who is a FB friend, put on his page...''I want you.'' As a joke. He said she does this with everyone. First--why tell me this. Unless you know my friend will see it and report back to me. hahaha I said nothing. I didn't care. Maybe I don't really love this man, because the thought of him cheating? Would be somewhat relieving, as I'd then leave no problem. Maybe I just feel like I ''need'' a man to feel whole. OMG. ImSTRONG said this in one of my threads yesterday. If you're reading this Imstrong...thank you. {{hugs}}

#4 Apr 7 - 9AM (Reply to #50)

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deidre40

but these "men", dont make you feel whole, they makes us feel fragmented, anxious, sick, stressed and the list is endless, and who needs that, as long as the have a hole in their backside, that will continue doing this to women until the end of time, if we women stop them, then they wont be able to do it.

#5 Apr 7 - 8AM

helldweller

TLSM

Oh boy. My last birthday I had stolen his phone the night before, so I was woken up on the morning of my 42nd birthday )after four years with him) by some broad calling to wish him a Happy Sweetest Day. I totally get the suck ass birthday present. I have not yet seen him with another woman, but my mind plays reel after reel of imaginary scenes in my head all day and night, as I know about five other women he was/is seeing, and I know where they live and what they do together so my mind is quite full of images. I don't know what I would do if I actually saw him happy with someone. At least now I can still imagine that he is miserable, just going through the motions, but if I saw him happy or appearing to be happy I would puke. I"m so sorry you had to see this. Please try to avoid this stuff in the future. I know you didn't mean to look, but try harder not to look :) Much love

#6 Apr 7 - 1AM

jaycee

tlsm

listen sweetheart, the first time i saw my hN on her facebook, i was so sick i went bullistic, that was the first time i saw them together in a photo, that was the first time they lived together, i went crazy i called him and he ignored my call and showed up at my house, i was a lunatic. i said you promised me you would never let her do anything more public, etc....he went nuts pretending he didnt know it was her profile pic, he got abusive, went crazy left and by the next day it was taken off, only because he hates facebook, well hers anyway, i think he has a fake name one somewhere, but hes more into finding singles in the area online, they are like porn sites, i always found them on my computer, and yes, the info was filled in, gross pics of naked woman who live in the area, etc.....that day or two when the pic was up, i went mental, i know how you feel, but deep down, there is nothing to do but laugh, lets be honest, anyone that has to show the world their shit, is obviously very insecure, i never liked facebook i feel its for hs and college kids, i dont get the lets air our laundry out to the public. its bullshit.......forget the pic, dont be me, forget and know only an insecure person would have to post it, especially knowing how hurt another woman is.......screw her and him.....

Jaycee

#7 Apr 6 - 11PM

ifinallygotit

I know how you feel

My EX N moved, said we were not breaking up, faded to texts only and without saying we broke up, he posted a pic of him with a sleazy looking younger woman on New Year's Eve at a bar, one day after his last text to me, which was something about the bad weather! Though horrified to see him grinning like a monkey with a prize on FB, it ultimately REALLY helped break through my denial on many levels: Yes, we really broke up even though he never mentioned it Yes, he really is this superficial Yes, he really is an N showing off to his friends on FB Yes, he really is with someone about as classy as a prostitute Yes, he was cheating months before or he would not have posted himself with a woman he barely knows Yes, he is a jerk for putting his ego above his children (they saw the FB pics and there were some ugly comments from his family of this lady) Yes, it hurts but it helped me see him as someone I used to know - not a current BF Yes, it helped me go NC BUT... My obsession is so bad that after 3 months the shock wore off and I contacted him... The contact was fairly benign though and did not change anything. He sounded very scared, ashamed and sad. These are little boys in big bodies doing DUMB things! Rise up, chin up, you are better than this nonsense And happy birthday - you are special and remember that no one can take that from you. We just got with the wrong guys - they are crazy and unstable and say one thing and do another. If we were not already in love with them, we could be more objective... Your post helped me not break contact tonight!

#8 Apr 6 - 11PM (Reply to #46)

TLSM

YESSSS ifinallygotit!

I'm so happy it stopped you from contacting him!!! DON'T DO IT! Shit, if I contact my ex N today, he would totally ignore me cuz he is so high right now and he would just tell the new prey I was crazy. Ill never contact him again. Thank you for your birthday wishes!

#9 Apr 6 - 5PM

sara-smile

TLSM

Happy Birthday! I know it doesn't seem very happy to you right now and I'm sorry about that. You are were I was a month ago! I had this picture in my head (that the new GF and the Narc put there) that they were so happy and he was spoiling her and blah blah blah! They may be happy right now but you and I both know whats coming! He's going to cheat on her and he's going to abuse her and on and on and on! They have NO CLUE what a real relationship is! They get bored and they move on quickly. Even if he stays in the relationship he'll be cheating on her! They are horrible bastards! HORRIBLE! Do you really want to be with a man like that? You deserve better! You can do better! I'm soooo very sorry this happened on your birthday. Try to celebrate and have a good one! They aren't worth the tears! NOT ONE TEAR! I hope your birthday gets better. Go out and celebrate! Don't let him take this day from you! He's taken enough already! Hugs!!!!!

#10 Apr 6 - 9PM (Reply to #35)

TLSM

thank you SS

I swear. I am 100 percent convinced he is madly in love with her and will treat her so sweetly. That is how I feel and I feel sick to my stomach!!! :(

#11 Apr 6 - 11PM (Reply to #41)

sara-smile

TLSM

I know you feel that way now because I did too. They both told me how happy they were and told me about all their plans for the future it it broke my heart! I think that also helped me to get to the point where I am now. I see her as someone perfect for him because she is everything I wasn't. She cooks and cleans for him and babysits his kids while he works. She is young and says she has ZERO self esteem so he's found the GRAND PRIZE in this one. I'm sure right now he "thinks" he loves her just like he thought he loved me and I was the only one and I was not like any other woman!! He's told her exactly the same stuff he told me. If he felt that way about me do you think he could move on to her in a matter of days? NO! He's in fantasy land right now with her and he will get bored with her and cheat. He may not leave her because she is PERFECT supply but he's going to cheat on her and abuse her and she may be too naive to see it or believe it. They can't be faithful! CAN NOT! They get bored and need to start hunting again. It's the game they love! Your Narc may seem happy as hell right now but just think about his past. I wish I had looked at my Narc's past before I jumped in the relationship. They never stop being who they are! NEVER! It's just like you and I will never be cold hearted, lying cheating bastards. Someone's personality doesn't change that drastic just because they met ANOTHER woman. I know I can't convince you of it right now but I promise you'll see it soon. It took me awhile and I imagined them running around like the perfect couple with everything going so smooth and they were blissfully happy! NOT! He's cheated on her already with ME back in February. (Not one of my finer moments) He asked me to marry him 3 weeks ago and they were talking about getting married! If she is so perfect then WHY is he cheating on her? They can't change. I promise you they can't change! They are idiots now and will be idiots FOREVER! :)

#12 Apr 7 - 12AM (Reply to #42)

TLSM

Wow Sara!

Your story mirrors mine, its scary!!! Promise of marriage a month ago. Ex Ns with younger female. Younger female seems perfect match and will do anything Narcs say. I can bet she will do everything ur ex Ns gf is doing now! My ex N gf (makes me sick writing that he has a gf!)anyways, she worships him and is perfect source for him-unlike me who wasn't putting up with his shit and was totally on to him. We are smarter than their gfs. That's a very good thing. I hope you are right. I hope he does cheat on her. She's been after him for awhile when we were together. And I know she is posting that pic to rub in my face. She knows I'd be peeking at his business page, so she just had to be the little girl that she is. You really think he will cheat??? :(

#13 Apr 7 - 7AM (Reply to #43)

sara-smile

TLSM

Does a bear shit in the woods? HELL YES he will cheat! HE WILL CHEAT! They don't know any other way of life. Think about your story with the Narc then think about what is going on with him and the new GF. Do the stories resemeble each other? Mine are EXACTLY the same! I read his emails a few times and the emails were IDENTICAL to the ones he had sent to me. Same words, same promises....everything! During the time he was sending her those emails he was still trying to get me to marry him and sleep with him. Yours pretty much did the same thing. That is who they are! That is their core person and that core can not and WILL NOT ever change. You might now like this part but I think mine will stay with the new GF until she gets smart enough to catch on to what he's doing. I'm a strong independant woman and I bought all of his lies and BS so imagine what the girl with NO self esteem is doing! She'll believe him for YEARS and he will cheat on her and use her and she won't know it for a LONG TIME! They are Narc's and they will USE and ABUSE them until they catch on. If you and I had not called them on their BULLSHIT we might still be with them. They HATE being called on their bullshit......in Narc terms "pulling their mask off"! We did that becasue of who we are! They want a submissive little girl who won't ask questions and let them do whatever they want. They put on a good show in public but I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt what THEY are doing when the new GF's are not watching! YOU KNOW IT TOO!!!! They DO NOT CHANGE! They will get bored and start cruising for NEW supply SOON! They will keep the blind ones at home doing for them and adoring them but the will CHEAT! The young blind girls will figure it out eventually! My Narc's new GF has been warned repeatedly and she didn't listen but the seed has been planted so when he starts acting like a crazy person she'll remember what she's heard! The biggest thing is this........This is NOT about them anymore. You are out of that crazy BULLSHIT life and you are sad but you should be celebrating! I know you can't now but you will get to that point! I promise you will. YOU WIN in this situation. She got a Narc and you got a life! YOU WIN! She has a life of paranoia and abuse. She just doesn't know it yet but she will. Focus on YOU! IF you move on and you are happy your Narc will go nuts! Mine is! He stalked me yesterday at work! LMAO!! They are pathetic little boys that CAN NOT stand to think someone is living their lives without them. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of letting him know I give him a thought during the day. When he stalked me at work yesterday I RAN from him! LOL!!! I ran into him again because he was looking for me and I turned around and walked back in the building AWAY from him. My response is usually to go right up to him to talk. Not anymore. My life is MINE now and he can go to HELL! You will get there. Get outside and start walking/running and listening to GOOD powerful music and start doing for yourself. It WILL KILL HIM! I promise! They want us to be at home crying for them. They LOVE it! Ignoring them is the same as saying F*CK YOU! Sorry this is so long! I get carried away and especially with you because our stories are so similar. It's about YOU now. Beat the hell out of him with YOUR happiness now. If you can't get up and be happy for yourself then do it for SPITE! Hang in there and email me if you need me!!

#14 Apr 7 - 8AM (Reply to #44)

Susan32

The myth of the submissive little girl

I was the ex-Psych prof's younger woman (I was 15 years younger than him)... while his "serious" girlfriend in LA was only 5 years younger than him. Now I see why the ex-P hoovered me *AFTER* I met the girlfriend who had moved in with him. The girlfriend was no longer the Madonna in another state, she was LIVING WITH HIM... heck, she might've had those things called NEEDS. I was the idealized one because I wasn't living with him, we never did have sex in any form. "Pulling the mask off"- Right after the ex-P ran off, with his girlfriend running in pursuit, I calmly informed his colleagues that he did *NOT* tell me that he already had a girlfriend. I got this knowing, sympathetic moment of silence... especially from the colleague who went to grad school with him, who gave me a sad look. The senior oral examination (on Augustine's 'Confessions',which he had forbade me from writing about) and the senior skit were part of the mask removal. No wonder he admitted he had pulled an act-and that I "did not appreciate his masks." The ex-P thought I'd be a "submissive little girl" like Sofia Behrs, who married Leo Tolstoy after only a week-long courtship. That didn't happen. "If you move on&are happy your Narc will go nuts"-Weird. Every time I've broken NC it's to talk about how *HAPPY* I am, and wishing him happiness&success. Maybe I really do wish him happiness. Or I'm just being passive-aggressive. It's nice to know I'm the one making the crazy, no longer him. "If you can't get up&be happy for yourself then do it for SPITE!"-That's what I did after I met the ex-P's girlfriend (she was a decade older than me, only 5 years younger than him) It was *DIFFICULT* for me to be happy for myself. My pastor friend had died from cancer. The ex-P flaunted his girlfriend after my friend's death. The constant humiliation was taking a toll. The ex-P would brag to his students&his circle of male disciples about how he lied to me... whether he did that with his girlfriend, I don't know. Believe me, I have rubbed my happiness in his face. One of my basic rules when I've broken NC is to *NOT* say I was weeping or longing for him. Sheesh. I've equated him with my baby nephew. Should I ask him if he has smeared poop all over his face like my year old nephew did recently?

#15 Apr 6 - 10PM (Reply to #40)

dazed and seeki...

He won't. I mean he dumped

He won't. I mean he dumped her in front of you. She took him back. She clearly has some issues of her own. I promise he will not treat her any better. I know how you feel. :( But hang in there. This is the time to treat yourself well and take good care. Don't worry about them - this is just an act until his true colors come out. They always do. Big hug.

#16 Apr 6 - 9PM (Reply to #36)

michele115 (not verified)

TLSM

He's madly in "HIGH" with her...he will tire and bore of her too. AND he might be able to "front" it well while she lies in sleepy dust and he trolls for new supply via: Facebook Myspace E-Harmony Craigslist Text Messaging Email Cell Phone Calls Match.com and the list goes on and on and on... Don't doubt it for a second!

#17 Apr 6 - 11PM (Reply to #37)

TLSM

Don't forget...

Street corners, massage parlors. Michele...match.com is how we met!!!! I just got the willy's! Narcs hunting ground is match.com, isn't it??? I remember seeing his match.com page and he had 89 new emails. Trust me, that is an insane amount for match.

#18 Apr 7 - 12AM (Reply to #39)

michele115 (not verified)

TLSM

AND I'll tell you what else confirmed and "entertained me" He would talk ad nauseum about the previous relationship breakup...he was going through a divorce right...so TRIANGULTION...he'd talk about what the ex was doing...tormenting him and such. So I was sending HUNDREDS of vile emails calling him everything under the sun...ranting raving the whole nine...back then I would peek on FB...I couldn't see the page but you can see the pic...AND EVERY pic SHE had was of her all over him, kissing his cheek and such and him looking all distorted and smug...and so I said to myself...yea, I dug this dude I loved him, but I was secure so I didn't have to plaster OUR LOVE in every pic...work with me....I know there was no "OUR LOVE" but I'm saying my head wasn't into...look at us, look at me...HEY EX...he's MINE NOW...SEE SEE!!? That is where she's at...so the thing is they're both sick. It's not healthy and her insecurity shows already...and I ain't even a threat...I don't want him...I think last time he tried to milk me I said something like, tell the bitch to get off her ass and start doing her job, you're not my problem anymore...cause he was trying to get the "stimulating" conversation from me, and I guess screw her...he did admit they didn't have that "conversing" chemistry we had...yea, the conversations were good, he's a good con so he could act his way and yea I had a lot of deep discussions with myself very satisfying discussions while he was "present"...LOL BUT on some level, yea, he does know how can I say it?...His image is not all he was hoping it could be, but he was desperate and needed supply fast...he'll settle for now, she won't be too much work and he can cycle others easily. I've seen him do that while with her...LOL So again, what am I missing? Nothing...I rejoice daily...I really do...my life is so much fuller and richer ALONE...it's not even funny - all I need is a little money and men can kiss my ass! I don't hate them, but not many are in my league. Not at this point. Hugs!

#19 Apr 7 - 12AM (Reply to #38)

michele115 (not verified)

Oh Yea!

Massage parlor...forgot that doozie...found the damn ad! Printed from Craigslist ripped up... I was like WTF is thiiiiis!!! And he says: "Oh my friend...'asshat' told me about it, I was complaining I wasn't getting any and he said hey, try this and gave it to me" And I delight in the fact that A. I walked out of the health station with a negaive Aids test...B. My son can be in a healthy enviornment C. We are both doing so much better D. I am enjoying my independence and am so very happy they are both enslaved....in a dysfunction that shows on both thier faces...he looks distorted and it's not me...I asked a friend too... Hugs!

#20 Apr 6 - 4PM

kizzy72

they are never in love

with anyone accept themselves. And these women are always backup plans. My ex-fiance (when I was 21), the king of narcissim, is a serial relationship seeker, was engaged twice before me, and married someone else while we were still engaged, and when things don't work out with his wife, he goes to his past relationships or another victim to try and have another backup plan, then when him and his wife decide to work things out, he disappears like a thief in the night. Trust me, its not you, its him.

#21 Apr 6 - 4PM

TLSM

:(

Thank you so much everyone. I am sorry I can't write each and every one of you a THANK YOU because I am so upset. You have no idea how your words are helping me. Bless all of you. :( It was a total accident that I saw it. And this girl does post things on his FB business page, so maybe she knew I'd see it. But I think she wants everyone to know because he is such a powerful force in his business field and she wants to show off. It's all so sickening because he has 3 kids- his oldest went to Highschool with her! only 2 years younger than this chick! I am surprised he isn't hiding her like he did before, so his children won't see this picture. Maybe they know? He has actually dumped her twice for me, but with each dump, they were never serious - so it wasn't really a break up. He just told her he was still in love with me and my daughter and wanted to move forward with me. He encouraged her to date others. He told her he could never be serious with her because he is 20 years older than her. So those two times he did that, it wasn't a big deal because they weren't serious. But now they are. I just don't understand it. DOES THIS MAKE SENSE??? It's not helping my self esteem because she is 15 years younger and makes me feel like I grossed him out or something. He is so handsome and sexy and spoiled the crap out of me. I know he is a dick, but it still upsets me. I know he is spoiling the hell out of her and obviously showing her off to the world (well, she is, but he isn't stopping her and I believe he knows I will see it and doesn't care. He is TOTALLY over it and me. All those years for nothing. He was the love of my life. But he was also the crulest. I am having such a hard time. :( :( :(

#22 Apr 6 - 5PM (Reply to #32)

kgirl

I am SO very sorry you had to

I am SO very sorry you had to see that and feel this way on your birthday. It doesn't make sense, it never does with them. It's just an illusion again....he can't love her, he can only set her up to drain her for all he can. I hope you will feel better soon....and do something just for YOU today. Sending positive vibes of peace and strength~~~ ~KG

#23 Apr 6 - 3PM

Journey

TLSM

So sorry you had to see that today of all days... Happy Birthday anyway. (I mean that birthday wish sincerely and regardless of what you actually feel today cause that is what I would rather you were experiencing) I know there isn't much to say, what you are going through is the worst. Just remember this man breaks promises and did so because you have authentic feelings which he can't handle. Marriage with him would be horrible, walking on egg shells not to set him off or have him abandon you... that is no happy relationship. As far as he and her go? He dumped her once in front of you (on phone) and now they're back together and she looks happy? OMG - what a jerk he is to both of you. She might SEEM happy, but how could she not be living with the fear that he won't do it again because of you or another new woman. I would bet dollars (if I had any) that she put that picture on there for one reason only - because she wanted you to see it. I don't know the history of her and you, but remember she is also not thinking clearly because of his influence, so it isn't worth a war in your head with her either. Narcs change their mind often and bore easily. What you think you see is NOT them so happy and in love in reality. That is impossible. Try to keep what you know about narcs in your mind so as not to be swept away by your imagining he is capable of being the man you loved. Your birthday gift is your freedom to live narc free. I know that doesn't seem like much of a gift right now because of all the pain, but the longer away from him, the more it will. ((hugs))

Journey on...

#24 Apr 6 - 3PM

Hunter

TLSM

Happy Birthday! She probablly photo shoped that photo of them! Really, do you think they are in love? Not! Read what is going on here! ANarc is a Narc is a Narc! Let her enjoy the abuse, better her than you! And go out and celebrate you Birthday and New beginnings! Fuck Him!( I know it's easier said than done )you must move forward, it's a celebration go celebrate! Have a drink on me Idealk

#25 Apr 6 - 9PM (Reply to #29)

TLSM

IdealK

Thank you. Its hard to think clearly when we see something that disturbs us so badly. I can't wait til this hell is over. I have never seen so much evil from one single human being.

#26 Apr 6 - 3PM

desprathousewife

Oh TLSM my heart goes out to you

This is so hard for you right now. it WILL get better, this guy is a total ass and unfortunately has no capacity for anyones feelings apart from his own which are extremely LIMITED!. Nothing I can say right now will ease your pain, but I want you to know that it WILL get better, you WILL get through this and eventually you WILL not give too hoots who he is with and what he is doing! No comfort to you right now I know, you feel like he's like a pig in shit and you are at your tether's end. Ride this pain, don't forget it though, it will stand you in good stead in the future when you feel stronger and dont give a rats ass who he is with and what he is doing. That day WILL come, and when it does you can buy me a large gin and orange cordial, no ice :)

#27 Apr 6 - 10PM (Reply to #27)

TLSM

DHwife!

Ha! Thank you. Its hard to believe anything right now. But thank you for taking time to comfort me. (((hugs)))

#28 Apr 6 - 3PM

victimnomore

I am sorry

I am sorry that you had to see this. These men are dogs and just plain evil. I had to see my ex-narc in a picture with the ow sitting on his lap. Now i just don't care. At the time that I saw the picture I did not know that he was already threatening her and showing his true self, so no matter what you saw it is FAKE!!!!!

victimnomore

#29 Apr 6 - 3PM

dudette

and another thing

when my husband rescued me from the hands of the narc, he started an entire promotion campaign on FB to show the world that we were back together and so very happy... So every time we went out anywhere, he would take photos of us all dressed up and publish those on FB I hated that....I knew what it was all about Going from PA husband to full narc back to PA husband More on that story later Anyway, just to illustrate it's all bullshit....

#30 Apr 6 - 3PM

gettinbetter

Oh gosh sweets you know I

Oh gosh sweets you know I know just what you are feeling. You can't breath. You are frozen. Here's the thing you see how superficial their relationships are that they can just drop someone one day and pick up with another the next. I know it hurts terribly my heart is pounding for you. But this is your opprotunity to let it end. No more. Sometimes we need something that traumatic for it to be the end. I know I did both times. Both times it ended in a very traumatic way. Its over sweets its finally over you don't have to worry anymore about the worst happening it just did.things will only get better from here as long as you do not communicate with him. Its gonna be ok I promise

#31 Apr 6 - 10PM (Reply to #23)

TLSM

SOI

Thank you. Your post made me cry because I could really never let go. Now I don't have a choice and it hurts so bad. I can actually feel my heart breaking. I never thought I could hurt this bad. I feel like I'm going to die. I know now how you felt when you found out that dreaded news. That will be my news next. God help me I never know. Thank you so much, SOI. xoxo

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