Please help I'm about to ruin his life

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#1 Jun 2 - 4PM

helldweller

Please help I'm about to ruin his life

Ok. So some of you know that my judge N totally ruined my daughters and me. I did not press charges right away--so as not to hurt my daughters (I thought he would be disciplined at work but he wasnt) and it was all swept under the table. We are in a large city in the United States and if I give an anonymous tip to the newspapers he will be ruined and his foster child will be taken away. Should I do it? My daughters and I have suffered so much. I have suffered my whole life. I keep thinking, "Vengeance is mine says the Lord" but if I turn him in to the public he will possibly not pass on his sickness to his foster child. Tell me what to do!

#2 Jun 6 - 6PM

narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)

F*CK HIM UP!!

i am all in favor of fucking up a Narc/Psycho with whatever weapon is most effective.... this is WAR.....let me quote General George S. Patton.. "The object of war is not to die for your country but to make the other bastard die for his.â€ YOU GO GIRL.... â€œI do not bring forgiveness with me, nor forgetfulness. The only ones who can forgive are dead; the living have no right to forget." - Chaim Herzog

#3 Jun 6 - 7PM (Reply to #17)

Barbara (not verified)

I agree

got that right. exposure them for who & what they are - whenever the opportunity presents itself. ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller

#4 Jun 6 - 4PM

Carolyn

A reporter won't give too

A reporter won't give too much credence to something that alledges negative information. The judges close ranks when one of them is being attacked and it is a hard row to hoe to get them into the public eye. talk to a reporter on the phone and stay anonymous they protect their sources. Tell her what you want to tell her and let her take the lead about whether it is newsworthy, fit to print, what more specific info she needs, and how to proceed. the foster child is your focus but you have some fear and trepidation. Once the piece hits the paper the foster agency will be forced into an investigation. Remember you are dealing with a judge/lawyer so what you have to say has to be proven or you can be sued for slander if he finds out the information comes from you. You need names, dates, proof, letters, texts and e-mails are not too evidence worthy. Protect the child if you can but also protect yourself! judges run scared very quickly if you have damning information and proof he will fold fast as there is a lot of community outrage and formal legal actions that come with judicial misconduct.

#5 Jun 3 - 6PM

Klarity Belle

Put the children first

As a mother who 'co-parent's with an N, I have to say that the child or children involved are the most important parties - they are innocent to what manipulations are being pulled, they are vulnerable to emotional damage. It isn't always possible to 'win' with an N but doing our very best to protect any child exposed to their dysfunction is something we can strive for. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran

"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung

http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4

#6 Jun 3 - 5PM

Susan32

It's karma

Because that child's safety and well-being means more than a Narc's ego.

#7 Jun 3 - 11AM

helldweller

OMG He wrote me a letter

He left it in my hall. I thought it would be an apology--not that I would have accepted it. It was a litany of everything I did to HIM. He even said that I never met his female friends because he was "protecting them from my bullsh*t." The first time we argued it was because he lied to me about having to work and I saw him at a restaurant with one of them. Then he said that when he got his foster child, we didn't even have a serious relationship, so it was none of my business. The week before the child came he asked me to propose marriage to him, and he gave me a photograph of the engagement ring he wanted. When he was offered the child, I told him good luck and good bye (not because I didn't want the child, but because it was outrageous that he'd made this decision on his own, especiallly in light of our serious plans) and he begged me to stay with him, that my girls and me were everything to him, and that we would raise and adopt the child together. I probably should have just thrown it away, but I tore the letter into pieces and stuck them into the pot of dead pansies on his stoop--that I planted and he couldn't bother watering, even though he watered the flowers his babysitter planted in the backyard. UGH. Did God make these people?

#8 Jun 3 - 1PM (Reply to #12)

Barbara (not verified)

helldweller

knock knock -- NOT HUMAN, remember???? did you think I was making a joke? http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2008/10/soul-slayer-psychological-evil.html ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller

#9 Jun 3 - 7AM

helldweller

Thank you everyone, for your

Thank you everyone, for your encouragement. I contacted the newspapers. I'll keep you posted!

#10 Jun 3 - 12AM

azucar

Reporting him to save the child is probably they way to go

I agree with the others here, you are not ruining his life, he technically did it to himself by committing his actions in the first place. I can only imagine what kind of a life you would be saving his foster child from. Good luck

#11 Jun 2 - 11PM

Lola1111

hi. i hope you save the

hi. i hope you save the child's life. who cares about him???

#12 Jun 2 - 6PM

quietude (not verified)

helldweller

In my opinion, you are not ruining his life (that's already a work in progress), you are sparing and saving the life of a child.

#13 Jun 2 - 6PM

betty2020

I can tell you that i came

I can tell you that i came forward with everything on my N and nothing happened. I am not sure in your case if you should or should not. I really had no choice as this involved sex with a minor child but i can tell you the devastation it brought to me when i realized he would walk away unscathed again. Especially in light of the horrendous crime he committed. It is very hard to watch when you know the truth, expose the demon for who he really is and watch everyone look at you like a freak ex girlfriend looking for revenge. And once again the Angel rises from the depths of Hell untouched and ready for more destruction and more victims. All i can tell you is if you do, don't hold any expectations to the results. You may be setting yourself up for disappointment in the end.

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#14 Jun 2 - 9PM (Reply to #2)

Barbara (not verified)

helldweller

Do it - for God's sake DO IT before he completely destroys that child and another woman & children. DO IT! betty2020 - are you being a FRIENDLY PEST or just reporting and expecting something to be done? have you gotten a police report or something IN WRITING that your words have been taken down and at least read by the authorities? or are you hoping one email is gonna cover it? With Psycho-Boy I really had to push, politely, but push. ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller

#15 Jun 3 - 5AM (Reply to #4)

betty2020

contacted them several

contacted them several times. Contacted the superior officer. Contacted the DA, sheriff, child services. He is still trolling the net. I am driving out there 3 hrs away today to get copies of the report i have filed. My next step FBI and state DA. Getting no where with the county. Not giving up. Ever.

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#16 Jun 3 - 6AM (Reply to #5)

Barbara (not verified)

betty2020

counties tend to be clueless go to the FBI ASAP. And State DA... that's what I did. keep going! ;) ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller

#17 Jun 3 - 6AM (Reply to #6)

betty2020

Thats my next step. I will

Thats my next step. I will never give up. The predator needs to be stopped at any cost. Thanks for your support through this Barbara. Many people in my network think i should leave it alone and walk away. They are turning their backs on me. They also do not understand the nature of the person were dealing with. They think im beginning to sound a little nutz. He will not stop and they don't get it. They all think im obsessed with this and need to move on. Even the therapist. I dont care what they think. Innocent children are the victims here. My obsession will stop when he is no longer able to harm. Until then i will trudge forward and do what i have to do.

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#18 Jun 3 - 12AM (Reply to #3)

hitandrun

helldweller do it

Do it for the child's life that is at stake. There are no guarantees that the legal system will support your efforts, but you've gotta try to save a helpless child. You and your daughters have suffered enough. Help this little boy before he becomes too twisted and crucify the judge bastard. Keep the faith and do the right thing...turn his a$$ in!!!!!

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