Please give me a swift kick in the ass!!!!!!!!!!

Stop it! Block! Delete! You've essentially taken the whip from the narcissist's hand and are now administering the lashings to yourself. Why? As badly as they've treated us, there comes a point where our health and happiness is in our OWN hands now. If you continue to torture yourself, it is not the narc anymore, it is you. It is you doing his bidding by still inflicting pain upon yourself, long after the sadistic scumbag has gone. Stop it now and begin healing. Block his FB profile and be DONE with it. D.

Please remember, the reason narcs discard is not personal. Being too smart, strong, not strong enough, too caring, too loving, not giving them enough adoration, boredom, impulse, another conquest in their sights, a fickle mind that is constantly changing, no thoughts about consequences, self serving agendas, caring only about what they want in the moment, us wanting something reciprocal with them, having needs and wanting him to meet them, us having needs at all, us paying more attention to someone or something else... these are reason all enough for a narc to discard. WE HAVE LITTLE (if anything) TO DO WITH IT!!! Those on FB who you see, he just hasn't had reason to discard them, but that does NOT mean they are valuable to him as people at all - only for the supply their attention gives him. From what I've seen from my exN, he will keep anyone in his life on the surface, but that does not mean he cares if they are there or not. He might notice when they stop giving him supply, but he just finds another who will. It does not make him stop taking whatever he might still be able to get from the others though. They only fully discard those that ask anything of them on an emotional level - that is when they HAVE to cut people off because it inconveniences them to have any expectations put upon them in that way AND it reminds them that they are void empty disordered narcs which ruins their self image that they desperately have to hold onto - which is what drives them to find supply in the first place. Supply sources that wises up to them, do stop giving it. I have witnessed this with my exN. But those that haven't had to wise up, who aren't as emotionally invested in the narc, don't know any better and continue to feed the beast. It does NOT mean he treats them differently, he just doesn't need to discard them because on the shallow level of FB virtual relationships, it can remain acceptable to them both. Journey on...

Block both his fb page and hers.... Yes it's easy to reverse the block, but by the time you go thru the trouble to reverse it when you get the urge...you will smack yourself in the face and hopefully stop.... Everyone in his entire circle is blocked so I never get the urge to look.... Looking is contact...which = pain!!! Block everything...it helps!!

Help me heal, I really do believe they treat all women, basically the same. When I talked to the ow ( been on and off for 10 years with narc). She said he disappears on her, recieves calls and texts which he won't tell her who it is, or lies to her about who it is, lies to her about many things, has had different women, tells her he's working late, but not at work etc..... Her trade off is he pays the bills, buys her diamonds etc... But he treats her the way, he started to treat me after the honeymoon period. The difference I didn't know what a narc was then, but I knew I could not be in that type relationship. No amount of material things can take the place of honesty and truth. She'll experience the same treatment and if she stays it because she doesn't know her value. The exn and other woman has pics of them together on fb, they're laughing, but it's just an image. Be glad you move on, it will get better.

I just picture him and her having a grand ole time and me sitting her seething with anger and annoyance. I know the thing is he is just putting he on a pedestal now so that he can drop her off that pedestal real fast. and yes I try not to let it bother me. but it does bother me too..i wish i could say more, but in the end I guess we are all OW and he will treat us all the same, so don't think less of yourself. she will get the same devaluation anyways..it's just in time..

HelpmeHeal.....block him on FB so you can't look. Thank God mine hated FB but the OW did not so I had to block her and still have trouble resisting people that know her. As for the OW figuring this out or getting D&D....I have a friend who divorced a raging NPD several years ago. He is very well known and successful in the music industry. He is like a FB Narc Blood Sucker and receives about 40 comments on every little inane asshole thing he posts. At one point, he went off of FB because he said "it took too much time away from his writing". LOL That didn't last long because he could not get his groupie fix (both male and female) Social Networking is not "real" Neither are your Narcs "relationships" You deserve REAL To answer your question, I don't think he will D&D them as long as they meet a need and don't cause him a problem. BLOCK HIM TODAY You will get better at this as you get sick of sticking your finger in the same ole fire because, let's face it, it hurts!

WELL, SEEK AND YOU SHALL FIND, BUT WHAT YOU FOUND WAS ANOTHER EXTENSION OF YOURSELF....THE OW!!!! SHE IS HIS CURRENT "MIRROR"..MEANING NO MORE TO HIM THAN WE ALL DID TO OUR NARCS....I AM TIRED TODAY SO I WONT GIVE YOU A CYBER KICK, I WILL GIVE YOU A CYBER HUG, COS WE HAVE ALL BEEN THERE AND WORN THE T SHIRT... SHE IS ABSOLUTLY NOTHING TO HIM...WHEN YOU CAN GET YOUR HEAD AROUND THAT THE PEACE WILL FOLLOW....