Physical Abuse, in sex and in general.
Physical Abuse, in sex and in general.
My N was a constant sarcastic "joker". He made little comments all the time, and what have you. We would also playfight a little, never anything to make me worry. When having sex, in the beginning he was not forceful at all. He was attentive. I knew he like to be rough, I knew of a time (as he told me) of when he was so rough with a "booty call" she was bleeding, but she was a coke whore and I believe she liked it....(thats besides the point)....anyway, now and again he would slap (but more playful, then violent)...pull a little hair, again, nothing that made me worry about his behavior, our sex life.
Toward the later part of our relationship, the playfighting escalated, he would grab me harder, he would pin me down, while laughing and joking around, but it would hurt. It got to the point where I would slap him back but I was laughing the whole time, but it HURT and I guess I never realized that maybe it could of been his way of being abusive but hiding behind the "joke". Altho Im confused because I was laughing and "play" fighting back....but sometimes in the back of my mind, I would think, this seems a bit escalated. On occasion after wresting around or whatever he would want to have sex, and that would be the moment where I put the "arousal and violence" together. But then I would convince myself I was overreacting and lots of people had that kind of sex.
Another thing I was thinking back to was if I had a nap, and he was awake, he would come and wake me up EVERYTIME. He could not stand it if i was sleeping and he was awake and bored without me. He would get angry.
Looking back im scared that I was willing to allow this in return for the affection and somewhat attention and psychotic safeness I felt with him.
Am I that damaged to think this is ok and to really not even mind it?
hmm?
Ns and Sleep
sleep?
There sarcasm is so routine!!
sarcasm
ROUGH SEX
sarcasm
Abusive Breakdown Tactics
whatever2009
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