To you think Narc's plot and plant to ruin women who love them?

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#1 November 3, 2009 - 3:49pm
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To you think Narc's plot and plant to ruin women who love them?

Sometimes thinking back about our break and the way it all heppened and the events that took place to get there...makes me wonder if he planned it all. I'm left to wnder what really happened. I thought we felt the same about eachother, yet he left me, and immediatley has someone else...the very person we would argue about our whole relationship. He would adimitley if he were to cheat on me it would never be with this person.

November 3, 2009 - 4:06pm
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its about control

I think they love to destroy decent women and trash them. It gives them some sense or power. Snare and hook a decent woman into their sick game is the thrill of the hunt for them and you bet its planned and calculated. They do everything for a reason: the ignoring, the discarding and planning their way back, they have been doing this all their lives trial and error and the older ones are really really good, they have had lots of practice. Each of them are after different things, money, sex, securing steady supply such as a live in partner, whatever their thing is. They will keep you around as long as you make them feel they are wonderful and are GOD
November 3, 2009 - 4:38pm (Reply to #6)
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Plotting and Planning

You described it to the T! I still have a hard time with accepting that aanother human canbe so evil as to plan all this withsomeone is genuine and good to them. Thet can actually pretend to love us? Whoa! That is scary because I really thought we had the same mutual respect and deep fellings for one another. What they are capable of and what they do is just dumbfounding to me! Thank you so much for your comment! I'm still struggling with hurt and confused feelings for this peron who feriously back stabbed me.
November 3, 2009 - 9:14pm (Reply to #9)
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Hard to grasp, it is all planned an calculated

The N approaches people WAY DIFFERENT that you and I would, or any normal human being. They look at them as supply. How can this person get me what I want. Relationship,,love,,,emotions, connecting, affection, all those things we feel so deeply for them, are no happening for them. Crazy thing,,is they fein and fake all this to us..un freaken believable. They see us eating out of their hand, and they just gloat and revel in their 'glory' being the ' dominant one, to really take all I can get from this woman" I truly don't think they have relationships with people. They purposely lead you down a wrong path, know it is hurtful, and have no problem with that or the aftermath. Who cares if you spent 10 plus years of you life? If it got him what he wants, so be it. Totally disgusting.
November 3, 2009 - 6:17pm (Reply to #7)
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that another human canbe so evil

hold on I will correct you before Barbara does, THEY ARE NOT HUMAN, and maybe they dont plot or plan they dont say, oh boy I found another one better go home and write down my plan for her, I think its just their nature to always turn destructive towards their partner, I think MY particular Psychopath always had another plan for me, to use me to further his sexual sick shit i think he slowly wanted me in the end for this. He tried to convince me it was normal to do these things and I would love it, when the truth is HE LOVED IT, I only wanted a genuine relationship with him, I never wanted to share his sick other life he has. As for his other woman he is with, in a way he planned it too for what he has her for, secure a woman for a wife type of role, never truly loved either one of us, we were both objects to him
November 3, 2009 - 9:20pm (Reply to #8)
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Plot and Plan My ASS!!

My N plotted and planned my ass so deep!! Oh, why don't we get a joint checking account, I think it will be a great way for us to "get more for ourselves" and my EX wife won't see this money coming in or be able to touch it, it will be a great step toward building out life together,,,,that is if you weren't living with another woman and f---ing her every day and night,,,and me too!! Scheming, manuvering, manipulating comes so easily to them,, it is diabolical...
November 3, 2009 - 4:38pm (Reply to #5)
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Plotting and Planning

You described it to the T! I still have a hard time with accepting that aanother human canbe so evil as to plan all this withsomeone is genuine and good to them. Thet can actually pretend to love us? Whoa! That is scary because I really thought we had the same mutual respect and deep fellings for one another. What they are capable of and what they do is just dumbfounding to me! Thank you so much for your comment! I'm still struggling with hurt and confused feelings for this peron who feriously back stabbed me.
November 3, 2009 - 3:54pm
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Continued...Plot and plan?

He would drop suttle hints about what was really going on but when I would question it or tell him what I was feeling he would get angry and tell me it wasnt real. Searching for the truth made me almost insane and effected me physically.
November 3, 2009 - 5:03pm (Reply to #2)
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I don't think they plot it,

I don't think they plot it, I think it's just their nature. I think they are very un-self-aware. Just my opinion. On Halloween I watched Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde...with Spencer Tracy and Ingrid Bergman. In that past I might have found that hokey...now I find it pretty scary, since it's really supposed to be an allegory anyway. Ingrid Bergman's character Ivy (who isn't in the book) who is being terrorized by Hyde but doesn't realize he's the same man as Dr Jekyll, her "angel"...does somehow see some glimpse of Hyde in Jekyll, but she can't make any sense of it...when Hyde comes to kill her, he's laughing about it..He says "does that CONFUSE you??? hahahaha...well let me end your confusion." And he killed her. It was totally creepy. It was an interesting movie...Jekyll is really the evil character, because he uses his potion to turn into Hyde and live his sick cruel fantasies while still getting to be respectable upstanding Dr. Jekyll. Until Hyde takes over. Fast forward to the Internet age and you pretty much have the same story.
November 3, 2009 - 8:34pm (Reply to #3)
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they don't think like NORMAL HUMANS

they don't see it as plotting and planning - it's part of WHAT THEY ARE and THE WAY THEY ARE. period. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help