Prize at the end(the story of Pam&Freddy)

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#1 Jun 25 - 10AM
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Prize at the end(the story of Pam&Freddy)

yesterday I watched my cousins 3 kids so she could go to the hostpital to be with her mother-in-Law.Her MIL's name is Pam.A long time ago Pam was a single mother, struggling to make it with one small boy. A monster named Freddy spotted her and swooped in, quickly. It didn't take long for Pam to conform to Freddy's demands. She didn't quit her job.(She had a great job and was successfull)She began to do it all. She pushed herself to get everything perfect. She took care of Freddy's children from his first marriage(His first wife lost custody when she was hospitalized in a mental institution after overdosing on pills). Pam cooked, cleaned, took excellent care of the kids and Freddy. But not herself. Infact Pam quickly realized that there really wasn't any time for herself at all. Ever. As Pam son got older Freddy liked him less and less. Freddy was allowed to "punish" him as he saw fit. Pam cried and she tried to beg Freddy. But Freddy's ways were law. By the time Pams son was about 16 Freddy had had enough. He demanded that the son must leave. Desperate to save her marriage Pam agreed but begged Freddy to let the son live in the garage until he found a place. By this time Freddy was hitting Pam and her son. Having afairs and generaly being a nightmare. Pam got her wish and her son stayed in the garage. Pams son eventually ran away with a girl who was also homeless. She became pregnant. Pams son and his girlfriend were bothe on drugs so guess who got custody of the baby. A new victom for Freddy. Freddy began working on the little girl right away. Pams son became seriously addicted to drugs and ended up in jail. Some time later my cousin met Pams son and took him in.they got married. My cousin is a lot like Pam and so the cycle continues. The little girl is ten and freddy still has her. Pam...... two days ago Pam took over 150 pills and is on life support. She decided that life is not worth living since Freddy told her that he can't handle all her mental problems and breakdowns. He says she has to get her things out of his house. And since she is too sick to drive, he is keeping the car too. And..the little girl. Pam is 95 lbs and probably going to die. My cousin is living the exact same life and will continue to do so. She is on heavy antidepressants. What a prize you get at the end for staying. Used and disguarded like garbage.Your life and your childrens life destroyed. The legacy will continue for generations. Is he worth it? Freddy now has a new girlfriend. She is younger and has a good job and is perfectly healthy. Pam is now destroyed.

Jun 25 - 11PM
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My heart breaks over this

My heart breaks over this story, Leah. Yes, we should all be happy we got out but we also need to keep in mind that's not the case for everyone. Think of how many people are in Pam's situation. It makes me sick. I have thought about Lacy Peterson everyday since my ordeal. One thing we can carry with us. Those of us who managed to get out have broken the generational curse of being victims of psychopaths for our children's futures. We need to pray prevention over our children so that one day Pams' and Lacys' everywhere will never have to fight this battle. Thank you Leah. This keeps me grounded and thankful. Be kinder than necessary to everyone you meet; for everyone is fighting some kind of battle - anonymous- :o) nolongercontrolled
Jun 26 - 2AM (Reply to #2)
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It's true that getting out

It's true that getting out is paramount. The first step is to get the f%*k out! But it's not the only thing: In order to have the strength and clarity to escape, you have to stay focused on your goal. Back in 1990, my goal was to find a way to live peacefully and without chaos. The process was complex and horribly scary. I was going completely on gut instincts. During the aftermath, while I was feeling free and rejoicing in being away from Hell, I thought that I'd escaped and my journey to health was finished. I thought that since I'd gotten OUT, I was okay. I WAS better off, but I was also far from being okay. I didn't realize the far reaching, ripple affect of how dealing with such abuse for so long would affect me. After a second, horribly disturbed marriage to another psychopath and then a third relationship with a full-blown Narcissist, I know better NOW. When I read the story of Pam, I was realizing how lucky I was to have escaped. Not many people understand what we've been through. They simply cannot relate. It's important that we all share our stories, our thoughts and our experiences....no matter how painful. It's through talking about it and talking it out, that we can find the path back to true, solid, healthy lives. I'm ordering books and reading as much as I can. I'll do the work books and keep talking about this until I feel that other people who's lives have been devastated by this can find their way back. Hugs to all of you, neveragain