N-moms

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#1 Aug 20 - 4AM
Anonymous (not verified)
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N-moms

Hi there, i'm new to this forum. Just getting my bearings so please excuse my grammar!

I have recently come to terms with having an N-mom, well, i'm still coming to terms with it. Does anybody have any advice for me? I'm currently reading 'Will i ever be good enough - daughters of narcissistic mothers'. It's a great read, i just thinking there are other things i could be doing too (i don't see N-mom anymore, just the occasional text).

many thanks

Ducky
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Aug 20 - 12PM
dolce (not verified)
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Hi there. I don't have an N mom, so I don't have any advice. But I have an N dad. He walked out on my mother and 6 children leaving us like dogs. He married his secretary. Classic story, really. He moved far away so we wouldn't interupt his new life. The reason he gave me for his behaviour was that he needed to do things for himself now. That he was tired of taking care of 6 kids. So he moved 3000 miles away. Didn't support us, didnt care if we had heat in winter. He had 3 houses and 2 new cars..lived a luxurious lifestyle. We were just baggage to him. When I was little and asked for anything at all, he would say.."now, do you NEED it, or do you WANT it?" I learned to say I wanted it, whatever it was. I never could say I needed anything, because that was the wrong answer. I grew up feeling guilty for my needs. That I never truly needed anything. I have low self esteem and everyone elses needs come first..because I was trained not to have any.
Aug 21 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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NarcMothers

I had a Narc mother. Here's some links for you: http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/03/18/adult-children-narcissists http://www.yourtango.com/200933143/moms-narcissism-could-be-ruining-your-love-life Blog by a daughter of a Narcissist http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com Just search the web for Narcissist Mother or Narcissist Parent - there's loads out there. YahooGroups has a mail list just for ACONS. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily "Some women can fake an orgasm. But some men can fake an entire relationship!" - Sharon Stone
Aug 21 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
James (not verified)
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Narc Mothers

Here is another site that deals with a someone that had a Narc for a mother and how she is dealing with it. http://truth-makes-freedom.blogspot.com/