is it a lie when he denies it?
is it a lie when he denies it?
And what if you have no proof but you JUST KNOW he's lying because the circumstances surrounding the story are absurd? Toward the end, he hated when I'd bring up an "odd story" from the past and ask questions. "I'M TIRED OF THESE ACCUSATIONS, LISA!!!!! I CAN'T DO THIS ANY MORE!!!"
"It's not an accusation, Len. I'm just asking a question. It just doesn't make sense why you wouldn't drive up with your son when he lives 5 minutes away."(or a number of other scenarios)
"LISA, YOU HAVE ACCEPT THAT SOMETIMES THINGS IN LIFE JUST DON'T MAKE SENSE!!! I'M TIRED OF YOU CALLING ME A LIAR!!"
"I didn't call you liar."
"THERE HAVE BEEN TIMES WHEN THINGS YOU HAVE SAID OR DONE JUST DIDN'T MAKE SENSE, BUT I LET IT GO, LISA."
"Oh? Can I have an example because I don't recall us ever having a conversation where I had to explain something to you because it didn't make sense to you..."
"I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE CRAZY!!!!!!! YOU ARE DRIVING ME AWAY FROM YOU!!!!!!!!!!"
A year and 9 months is a long time and there were tons of these things that didn't add up or make sense. If I recounted them all, I'd be here for a year and 9 months! The gaslighting, the twisting of blame. I could kick myself for the times I ended up apologizing to HIM! How they do that is beyond me. You KNOW you're right, you KNOW you're not crazy yet he twisted your head up so much that you're all... "Baby, I'm sorry. I don't know why I do that to you. You're right, I should let go of the past. I must be crazy. Let me work on me and I promise I will get better. I promise. You don't deserve to go thru what I'm putting you thru. You've been thru so much."
absurd, huh?
Trust your instinct
if you watch the movie
hell yes
lying to you makes the narc feel smart