I am wondering?

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#1 Sep 10 - 8AM
Anonymous (not verified)
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I am wondering?

I have not read any info about n's being very competitive or "sore losers". Is that a common trait to most, or just mine? For example, even playing a simple game like monopoly with kids seems to bring a very competitive side out in him. He can't stand to lose, even to his children.

Sep 10 - 11AM
dolce (not verified)
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its about attention

My STBXN didnt care really about winning or losing a game. It was about the interaction while the game was played. If he got lots of input and good feelings by playing, that was enough. BUT..in the workplace, if he wasnt chosen for a position, that would get him very angry. Yes. He would play victim..."look at all I did and I didnt get the promotion. So and so got it and he never does what I do" He would even sabatage others at work. "Telling" on them.
Sep 10 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
tina
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its about attention - you betcha!

My exN is a musician and boy, if he had a bad night, didn't get the crowd response he that he 'deserved', enough people didn't show up etc, man it sould get ugly. He would get downright angry and say stuff like "These f'ing hillbillies don't know good music when they hear it" or "Who needs this place anyway, I can and will do so much better, then they'll see what their are missing" Its all about EGO. Mine would always run crying to mommy and his family to be stroked. They can have him.
Sep 10 - 12PM (Reply to #3)
dolce (not verified)
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tina

My N ran home to mommy and daddy too. I still cant get over that. At 41 his mom and dad completely coddle him, believe him, give him everything he wants. Its unbelievable. I think he even conned them into buying him a computer so he could "play" online. He told them since there were no jobs, he would like to start a computer course. So they paid 5000 dollars for the course and bought a brand new computer. He doesn't work in the meantime. And sends me piddles of money here and there. It's so sad. Even when he assassinated my character..they believed him. Theyve met me and my family and know they were treated well here. Very very well. They know that I come from a good family and have good values. But still...the N twisted everything around..and they BELIEVE it! It's beyond my comprehension.
Sep 10 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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everythings a game to them

sore losers being proved wrong being caught in a lie all the same. they don't like "losing the game" ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck