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WOW. Had i only known, right? You are 100% dead nuts on when you say his actions did not match up. I thought a million times in regard to his words and behavior: DONT LET YOUR MOUTH WRITE A CHECK THAT YOUR ASS CANT CASH. He was the epitome of his words speaking way louder than his actions. Thanks for the venus fly trap analogy. -Lisa

I am friend with this P's 7th wife Sandra. http://fightbigamy.typepad.com/my_weblog/bigamy_victims_thoughts/ (scroll down to Sandra Phipps-Hicks) She learned later he had FOLDERS on his computer for all his targets so he could 'keep the details straight' and sent pre-done letters.... just CHANGED THE NAMES. He's on the lam now - who knows what name he's using or where he is. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily Online Coaching for Victims of Narcissists/ Psychopaths

In college, I once lived in a house with 10 girls, and at the top of the stairs where you came into our place, we had a big corkboard that we used for Date Darts. That's where we put pictures of jerks we'd gone out with...and played darts. With 10 college girls in the place there were a lot of pics, and a lot of darts, lol.

quietude, I too for feel that as well how she never loved me. But what really hurt even deeper is how because of this damn disorder couldn’t bond with her own children which include all four. I believe my poetry help me greatly in my effort to understand the hurt I feel for her even if she herself is unable to do so. Please allow me to share this poem with the site and may God be with you in this hour of need quietude. Mother and Child By: James A mother’s love should be so deep and long lasting A bond given by birth one a child the other a mother to this child Two who shared the same flesh and the same heart beat for awhile A child given by God to love and nourish with needs to meet This is how all mothers start out to be for any child But sometimes a mother so lost to herself and child Finds herself not wanting this precious child Defining this child to be what she needs Destroying both child and this mother who Could never meet the child needs or desirers So this mother trades this child for another love Then forget this one so precious and dear this child should be So that the child grows apart from her and her needs Learning that this mother’s love was only for her self and never for this precious child Both God and child will leave this one to be In a place so deep and cold this mother shall be Place there by her hand and her own desirers Who forsaken a child so precious and dear For now this child will forget her But not just the child today’s Nay but for all the child’s tomorrows Now this mother will spend all her ending days Believing someday both child and mother again will be Together and bonded as they were once before But alas now she lies only to herself and not the child For you see that child now has completed their own autonomy and knows who this person really is and that she was never that mother she pretended to be Nor shall she ever be for all eternality Lost to not only God and child but herself as well she will need to pay that price for all her denials For not just her today's Nay for all her tomorrow's There she lives in pain and denial for all her yesterdays Regrets for all her lies and denials to her self and her lost child