Other Women

I'm having a difficult time figuring this part out. When I met the N and developed a friendship, I asked about any women in his life. He lives alone. He told me about a "dear friend" with whom he lived for a couple years 20 years ago. They remain friends. And over the months I would witness him going over there to help with something she needed done around the house. She's on his cell plan. He told me stories of how she was crazy. But, he was always around, always available for me. He rarely saw her.

When I first asked him, before I even knew I was developing feelings for him, he told me the relationship was "difficult to define" He said sometimes they might talk weekly, sometimes they might go for a 5 month period, and once they went a year, all because she got "mad."

Within weeks of our break up he didn't have a problem mentioning her to me. He told me his relationship with her has nothing to do with our relationship.

Is that total denial on my part or what? She was/is his source. I was just the OW for 6 months.

Anyway, since I lived so close to him, I know he didn't have other sources. I never saw other cars and his was always there when I drove by.

How common is this? It seems everyone talks about the N always needing supply. Always having another woman to turn to. But I honestly don't think that's happened in my case.

I just can't figure this part out.

Thanks for any insight.

Lisa