The older I get... the more pathetic they look...

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#1 Oct 9 - 3PM
laxl
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The older I get... the more pathetic they look...

After getting blind-sided by 2 total Narcs in a row, and after soul-searching, therapy, and clinging to the wonderful people who have posted on this website - I realize more and more...

That those of us who thought the Narc was THE ONE who would bring us happiness... that he (or she) was THE ONE who would bring light to our lives, or bring meaning to our existence, the more I realize that it's sad we believed that SOMEONE ELSE could bring value to our existence.

I do not blame those who have fallen prey to the Narc's of the world... that would be like blaming the victim. But we do NOT, NOT, NOT have to be victims!!!! We fell for a Narc b/c the Narc made us feel like we had value. But to all the beautiful, wonderful people out there, please believe me when I say...

We had, have, and will ALWAYS have, value - separate and apart from the Narcs! It's an illusion that we were without value that gave the Narc strength over us.

To all of you who think your existence didn't matter until the Narc came along - that is the mind set that gives these meanspirited people their power.

Do NOT let them have power over you. You are valuable. Your heart, your kindness, your love for others, make you strong!

Hang in there...if you think the Narc broke your heart, please listen to so many others on this blog - when we tell you, NO ONE can break you... you will be ok.

It will be hard to get free of the heartbreak, but you can do it. Hang in there, your strength will be rewarded, and the lessons you have learned from this heartbreak will make you stronger and wiser.

xxxxooo to you all.

Oct 10 - 12PM
shock and awe.some
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This is so true

Oct 10 - 8AM
spinning
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Laxi, you nailed it

spinning

Oct 10 - 7AM
Goldie
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Sums it up doesn't it?

Oct 10 - 6AM
Snowflake
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laxl

Oct 10 - 4AM
neverlookback
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actually

Oct 9 - 5PM
IncognitoBurrito
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That was

Oct 9 - 5PM
bakingfortherapy
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Great thoughts...