Okay...the swearing thing??

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#1 Feb 23 - 7PM
Lookonthesunnyside
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Okay...the swearing thing??

It seems like these gentle, sensitive narcs have a major issue with us swearing. True??

Once when I was walking hand in hand with my ex and talking about something, I let a swear word slip out (god forbid!), and he violently threw down my hand, yanked his hand away and said "DONT SWEAR!!" His problem was that it was "not lady like".

Eat me!

Is this a misogynistic thing or a narc thing? Or perhaps both?

Feb 24 - 2AM
Im_always_fine
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It's also the subtle message

It's also the subtle message implying his "moral superiority" this implying your inferiority. The NARC/pimp cringes when I swear. Mentions that his X NEVER swore (like a put down)Like I give a FLYING F@#K!
Feb 23 - 8PM
Hunter
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Lookingonthesunnyside..You

Lookingonthesunnyside..You are tossing out a lot of questions .. Questions are good ..This is all about control and appearances .. Getting better requires you to find a lot of the answers .. It requires work .. Are you working Lisa's steps, seeing a Thearpist , reading.. We are here to support your recovery .. Reading as much as possible is highly recommended .. Knowledge is Power.. Hunter
Feb 23 - 7PM
onwithmylife
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sunnyside

OK confess you dated my narc the same time i was with him!!!OMG, that is exactly what he said if I ever said a swear word like damn or f^^k, no big deal but he could swear some of the filthiest words I ever have heard in my entire life and i use to bartend so i have heard it all. Two things, the double standard which they operate on and second, the weird old fashion views and ways they view women, prime, proper, ala Donna Reed of the 1950's, sick freaks......Women cannot pass gas but it is OK for men, things like that.............
Feb 23 - 7PM
wsh
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I think it's both

and LOTS more. No matter........your response to it is perfect........ EAT ME!
Feb 24 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
ACgirl
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They are truly hypocrites

They are truly hypocrites. Mine was the same way. Heaven forbid I use a swear work, like F*@k. Yet, mr. bible study narc, mr. I'm such a gentlemen narc, lied till his brains exploded, cheated on so many women, jumped into one bed then another and another. Dear God, I can't even ponder or understand the depth to their double standard hypocrite behavior. They are selfish two-faced freaks. I am so glad I have this web-site and the knowledge I now have. Free at last, free at last. Thank God I am free at last!! Yahoooo.