Officer Charming and why you shouldn't ignore your gut instincts
Officer Charming and why you shouldn't ignore your gut instincts
Funny I just thought about Officer Charming after these 20 yrs. Not that I haven't thought about him before. He was simply the most gorgeous guy to ever ask me out. We never dated though because he showed his true colors too soon which was good for me. Still I regret and blame myself for things that happened and wonder what if I had done things different.
When I met him I was fresh out of a 5 yr relationship that ended when the physical abuse started. I was beaten down and didn't want to date anyone. I had just set up my dating rules as well. Cops were in my list of guys not to date. Enter Officer Charming. Initially all I could think was here comes trouble and avoided him like the plague. It was hard to avoid him since his beat was at the terminal I passed through during my commute, a meeting was inevitable. Blinded by his good looks I foolishly broke my rule. All seemed ok until he called for a first date.
It was Friday night 11:00 or 11:30 can't remember exactly but that it was very late. He wanted to know if I'd meet him for drinks. I was on my way to bed in PJs and all but contemplated how long it would take me to get dressed. Then he suggested I bring a friend in case he didn't make it. Had I not just got out of a horrible relationship I would have run down there anyway and risked being stood up. I just didn't want to take a 30 min drive somewhere, which was only blocks from his house to have him not show. I had spent the better part of five years running after my then loser of an ex who never got a car so never picked me up. I expressed exhaustion to Officer Charming and suggested maybe there would be a better time when it wasn't so late and asked him to call me the following week. Well I guess this didn't sit well with him because when I ran into him during the week. He said I'd missed the boat and he'd never be asking me out again. What could I say to that? I felt really bad, I thought I had made the biggest mistake and stupidly sometimes I still do. I don't know what he expected me to do? Cry? Plead? I said oh well my loss and that was that but not really.
For the next few months anytime I ran into him he harrassed me. He'd write tickets for smoking, spitting etc... he'd always rip them up but not without a hassle. One night I was coming home late after having been out with friends. Didn't see him but he obviously found me. He asked if he took me out to dinner what would he get out of it. So I told him he'd have an enjoyable evening in the company of a beautiful, intelligent woman. His reply "a hooker would be cheaper". I told him being that he was a cop he must know many and wished him to have a lovely evening. And so it went he would tell me he didn't like my attitude; I would tell him I didn't like his face. He hit me on the bottom of my foot one time with his nightstick while I was sitting reading; I had my legs crossed. Just as I was getting ready to file a complaint about his harrassment of me he vanished.
The very last time I ran into him I remember rolling my eyes as he approached me. He put his hands up as a surrender and said he just wanted to talk. He told me he was working on getting his position changed and how he was tired of being a cop. That last conversation has stuck with me for years, it was that guy I had wanted to know and don't understand why he was the other mean guy? His final question to me before we parted was why I never dated him? To this day I wonder how he could seriously ask me that after things he said and did to me? Sometimes I think had I met him that night it would have been different but now I think I just saved myself a lot of grief.
I don't know why he popped into my head. I guess I was just thinking about past relationships and why I got caught up with so many bad guys. Wondering whether I'm just destined to be with Ns or will I ever learn to spot them before it's too late. Here I am 20 yrs later and once again made this exception. Another person I dismissed my gut instinct of here comes trouble. As much as I've moved on this is a point that bugs me. That I didn't listen to my gut. So if anyone is in a relationship now or starting one and there is anything that comes up that your gut is telling you run, for heaven's sake listen. I hope the next time I do.
Officer but no gentleman
Is he as disrespectful to her as he was to me?
Barbara
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All of that BS we were
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