Not Supportive to Me when my Dad Died
Not Supportive to Me when my Dad Died
Excuse me while I rant here, this has just been on my mind today and I wanted to get it out and figured the posters here would relate.
The final straw for me with the ex N was how he treated me when my father died. My parents were vacationing in another state and my Dad died unexpectedly of a heart attack. I got the call about 8 pm and when we went to bed that night I said to the ex N that I was in shock over my dad's death. He said to me "you've got to get over it". I just found out 2 hours earlier that my dad died, it's not like I was dragging it out. Geesh! I should have known with him though that he would have no sympathy. Of course if it had been one of his family members he would have expected the world to stop....
He didn't come to my dad's visitations. I begged him (stupid me) to come to the funeral. He did come to the funeral but left immediately afterward. I was left there making excuses for him like an idiot when people asked where he had gone to right after the funeral, we had dated about 5 years so people knew he was a "serious" boyfriend for me and wondered why he wasn't around supporting me.
When he was so cold and rude to me at that time, I tried to say something to him about it and his reply was "you are not the center of the world, it's not all about you". THAT WAS IRONIC considering as we know that Narcs expect the world to revolve around THEM.
When I look back I realized that it was always me doing for him and his family, he never gave back. Stupidly I was so desperate to have him stay with me I put up with that crap. But my moment of clarity or sanity or whatever you want to call it was at my father's funeral when I realized that if something happened to me my N would never be there for me. And it made it more apparent when my relatives and friends were so supportive to my family when my dad died, it just made it more clear what selfish jerks the ex N and his family were.
This sounds terrible, but I think my ex N is more worried about what he will get in the will than his parents dying. Because he doesn't know what love is, he doesn't realize how a family could love their dad and grieve for him. His parents have a terrible marriage and he doesn't understand how a wife could grieve for a husband that she truly loved.
I''m sorry to hear this, and I went through this too....
So sorry to hear how you were treated when your dad died
I feel for you
Sorry for your loss
That's terrible
I think
Thanks
Im sorry for your loss. I
That is terrible
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My Ex N would bring up my Dad too...
Same here...and it was a deal
I agree
I witnessed my mom leave the
so sorry for your loss...
FeFe
"said it "wasn't his place"
I am sorry
Thanks
indeed