no more crumbs and refusal to settle

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#1 May 8 - 4PM
cluelessuntilnow
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no more crumbs and refusal to settle

Especially today. This morning I got a text and all it said was "Happy mothers day". This is from my x who abandoned me when I was pregnant, d&d me for the first 3 years of our child's life, walked away from all of his responsibility and then reappeared 15 years later to try to mess with me again.

In the entire lifetime of our child he has never once said happy mothers day to me and today, though it may seem like he is acknowledging me, it did not feel that way. It was text and he could have sent it to anyone on the planet. He only sent it because we had had a fight last year about him not acknowledging me on Mothers Day. So this year, he did in the most minimalist and non-personal way. Not one word about our child, about what a good mom I am, about how grateful he is for me raising him without any help, just a flat happy mothers day. He could have said it to the grocery cashier. Translation, "I will say it but that is all you get".

I guess I just need to vent in a place that will understand. He is an angry mean man, and he is not getting a response from me. I am 27 days NC and I am sure that is part of it as well. I will have to communicate at some point and when I do it will be yes, no, and strictly business.

As a good friend (gettinbetter) reminded me (bless her soul)I don't need validation from him, I have an amazing husband, children love me, and think I am a great mom, friends and family who love and surround me and all who wished me a PROPER and REAL Happy Mothers Day. It was just a sad reminder that he will always try to hurt me and his insideous way. It is a pathetic effort meant to throw me crumbs and I will never settle again for his crap. He gets nothing from me, no more.

Wishing all you amazing women and mothers out there a REAL heartfelt Happy Mother's Day. Remember, surround yourselves with those who are CAPABLE of valuing and adoring you. Hugs, Clueless

May 8 - 6PM
gettinbetter
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I love you Clueless! Like I

I love you Clueless! Like I told you this morning we don't need validation from pathologicals. In fact in opposite land their d and d is their highest commendation of us and the more horrendous the d and d the more they thought of us but that's life in narcville
May 8 - 5PM
wacaet
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good attitude! and Happy

good attitude! and Happy Mother's Day to you
May 8 - 4PM
Hunter
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clueless

Works for me! Sounds like a Plan. Screw him. Happy Mother's Day! Hunter